Uninvited guest

Repeat after me "Unfortunately, as much as we would love to invite everybody to celebrate with us, we can't accommodate everybody we would like to."
Easy enough.

View Quoted Comment Lol omg I’m afraid to say that to their faces!!! And I don’t know why because I’m usually a very straight forward person, but for some reason when it comes to this I just stay quiet and look at my fiancé, ughh

Girl you would be surprised how many people feel that they are coming to your wedding even though you don't even have a relationship with them I know I've had people say that when my FH and I get married they want to come to the wedding but I wasn't invited to theirs. Just say sorry we've already finalized the guestlist and due to the size of the venue and cause we can't really add anymore but thank you for wanting to come. Maybe there's a better way to say it but at the end of the day if you don't have a relationship with these people don't spend your finances on them nor do I feel that they are worthy of a privilege to see what are the most important days in your life.

I had a friend that kept messaging me on Facebook wanting to attend. We used to be pretty good friends and he got along really well with my husband so after he messaged me my husband told me to go ahead and invite him. At that point we had already sent out all of our Invitations, but I had a few left over so I made one up for him and made a special trip to the post office to mail it since we live in an apartment we have to take all of our mail directly to the post office. Few days later, he messaged me thanking me for the invite but that he couldn't make it. I was so angry because he kept asking me about attending so I invited him to be nice only for him to say he actually had other plans and he knew before I sent the invite when and where our wedding was. Given my experience, I would kindly tell them unfortunately we are not able to to accommodate everyone. While it may be awkward, I would bite the bullet and just do it.

We are having a super small wedding so I kind of just tell people how it is. I just say we are keeping things small due to moving and the venue doesnt allow over X amount of people.

View Quoted Comment Well said!!! I just wish people would stop asking me lol

View Quoted Comment Wow!!! That was really messed up on his part!! Thanks for the advice

View Quoted Comment You're welcome 😊 I hope it all works out.

It happens. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’ve just politely said that we are only inviting close family and friends. Which is true lol. We want a very intimate wedding. It’s uncomfortable for a bit but they usually understand.

I'd laugh it off, not give a direct "yes", and then don't mail an invite. They can't go to a wedding that they don't have the details for. lol

Someone I used to work with messaged me and said “I better be invited to your wedding” and I had to tell her that she wasn’t - we are doing something sort of small with immediate family and close friends (my immediate family is big so it’s still 70 people lol). She has not spoken to me since. Honestly I don’t feel bad - we aren’t close, we are just old coworkers. If that’s her reaction, then that’s her issue. I apologized but I’m not going to go to great lengths to make her feel better about it - she honestly should not be mad.

View Quoted Comment

This is what I've done lol. I try to ignore it when people say stuff like that, it's just so rude.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I don’t understand how people have the courage to even ask if they are invited or not!!! Like I don’t talk to you at all, you are nothing to my relationship and yet you feel the need to be at my wedding!!! So annoying lol

View Quoted Comment That’s exactly what I’ve been doing!! It’s just so damn awkward lol

View Quoted Comment It is unbelievably rude. Would I love to invite everyone? Sure. Can I? No, because my fiancé and I are paying for this ourselves and our wedding is already blowing our budget. I would never ask if I was invited to someone’s wedding. You never know people’s personal situations.

View Quoted Comment

I completely agree! You can't help that they have poor manners though. That's their issue, not yours! Don't lose any sleep over it

I had this problem too. One person I had just completely forgotten about inviting, but for everyone else I just broke the bad news right there and then. It helps that we're having a more intimate wedding and that 80% of the guests are family members, so people tend to be understanding. It's hard though.

I had several that tried that but they didn't get an invite. I told them our venue had limited space and we were only inviting family. No one showed up that wasn't invited. They will never stop asking though.

View Quoted Comment Keep is simpler? Just say “aw sorry it’s a small wedding” or, “sorry family obligations”.


I had a “friend” who’s always flaky message me because she wants to come to the wedding. People just want to go to a fancy party sometimes.

View Quoted Comment Yesss i can tell, ever since I got engaged I’ve had multiple people ask me, even the people that I meet while working out at the gym!!! Lol