Unexpectedly small wedding :-(

I'm sorry you are sad. I know its hard to deal when your vision isn't coming together the way you dreamed. I'll be honest, our RSVPs are slow coming in. We invited 85 people and so far 40 have RSVPd and honestly, those are the 40 people I care the most about so I'm cool with it! Maybe its a matter of perspective. Quality vs. Quantity?

I know what you going throw because my first marrige no one was there because my family didnt like my ex husband and his family didnt like me either

I completely understand. We started off with a large guest list where we were expecting 180-190 guests but the way the RSVPs are coming back, I just hope we meet our required minimum of 150 people. My mom says we will but there are some family members and friends I was expecting to have there who are not coming. It makes me feel sad and like my special day is not important to the people I thought it would be. It's best just to go forward knowing that the people who want to be there will be and you don't anyone there out of obligation.

Everything will be beautiful. Don't stop planning or being excited. You marrying your FH is the most important part of the day.

Worry about your closest friends and family who are committed vs an empty room. Afterall its not about the quantity of people that you have at your wedding but the quality of people, you want people that are there for all of the right reasons, because they support you as a couple. If your day is not so important for them, don't give their decline that much importance. Instead how about going through your invitees again and possibly adding some people that you know will go. I know there is a bad rep for this type of thing but if you still have other people that you can invite then do it. Again, its about the people that really want to celebrate the day with you! Good Luck!

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I would downsize the venue and make it more intimate then .

I realize that planning for one of the most joyful days of your life is accompanied by lots of expectations. However, the most important thing is that you are in love with your husband to be and that you have a great day on the day you get married. Lots of guests is great - but not required for a fabulous day. My daughter recently got married - July 1, 2018 and there were.....NINE of us. That's right 9. It was the most joyful event...ever. We had all of the same things that a wedding of 100 has...D.J., Professional Photographer, Reception with cocktail hour and full open bar, fruit, cheese five different passed appetizers, full plated lunch, custom cake, Champagne toast. It was grand. Just enjoy your day with whomever shows up to celebrate with you....and take lots of pictures. :-)

Just remember that your wedding day is about you and your fiancé. It doesn’t matter how many people show up. The ones who come are there to celebrate and that’s what should matter. I do understand how you feel. My guest list is a lot smaller than I expected but we decided to just spend the extra money on other things.