Underage maid of honor

She's not of age, most people don't care about that but the fact still stands.

You could maybe talk to your other girls and try to settle on something-or even have a second night out that includes her. Just don't call the night out with your other girls a bachelorette party.

Have you talked to your sister about it? How does she feel?

My sister is 17 and is my MOH. She actually planned my bachelorette weekend and did it around the traditional going out to bars and such.

I have been the BM in this situation twice:

The first time I was asked to go to Tahoe with the girls (I was the only one under 21) and stay at the cabin while they went out. I also wouldn't have known anyone on the trip. It felt really uncomfortable and felt kind of crappy, to be honest. Luckily I had my brother coming back from deployment the same weekend so I had a valid reason not to go.

The second, I was MOH so I was able to plan the event. The bride wanted to have a more "wild" party and while I couldn't deliver on bars, we did all the other things: got the bride drunk, played silly underwear games, and even did a little karaoke. We had an old-school slumber party with pizza and junk food and drinks. I was able to be included in the party and the bride got everything she wanted.

You may want to consider doing something a little easier access for her.

My daughter is my maid of honor and will be 17 when I get married. She is not coming to the bachelorette party, we are including her along with the flower girls who are my youngest daughter and niece to do a pre bachelorette party spa day. She has actually offered to babysit the younger girls so I could have an adult evening out.

I wouldn't want a bachelorette party without my MOH, personally. If you're dead set on going out to bars, I guess you don't really have any choice but to leave her behind, but there are so many other options. We had drinks at my parents' house, then went out to a nice dinner (where I got PLENTY tipsy off of the delicious wine my MOH kept buying for me).

Whatever you do, PLEASE don't make her DD. I skipped 2 grades and graduated from college when I was 20. It sucks enough being younger than everyone else...it sucks more when you're expected to DD because of it.