Underage maid of honor

My sister is my MOH and underage as well. Unfortunately she won't be doing bachelorette party with us but I just promised to make it up to her for her 21st. I'm going to plan a separate night with my sister to celebrate with a girls night. Dinners, Movies, facials... that sort of thing.

I have 2 sisters, twins. They're 17yrs. They're bridesmaids. I have a Bachelorette party in September in Vegas. I'm inviting them. They'll be joining us on a few day trips .. but mainly staying in the hotel at night, while we go out.

I asked them how they felt about that. They were excited. For them being younger, they're excited to go out in the first place. Lol

But they have eachother to stay entertained.

Maybe if you let her bring a friend? Just in case

Do you have to choose drinking as a bachelorette event?

we are going to take a boat and go out to a really nice beach for mine.

My sister is 17 and one of my BM. We are doing it so it starts out with gal pal bridal party time at the hotel, then dinner and drinks (no drinks for her tho). And then we decided we would go to one 18+ club so she can come out and experience some fun with us because she will be 18 by then and no one in my bridal party is over the age of 22 so I mean, we'll still have some fun with it. And then once we are done there, we will set her up real nice at the hotel and the rest will go out for the rest of the evening. End it with a brunch with everyone in the morning!

I was 18 when I was my sister's MOH. I completely understood why I wouldn't be invited to the bachelorette party and didn't feel bad. Everyone was several years older than me so I think I would've been uncomfortable in that situation.

Can you maybe do some other more inclusive thing during the day (or really any day...Like a spa day or something) and then go out at night?

I would ask your other MOH to plan something that's more inclusive. No bars.

I think it's perfectly acceptable to have a girls day with everyone (mani/pedi, spa, lunch, shopping, things of that nature) and then go out at night. I'm sure the underage MOH will understand why she can't go and won't feel left out.

Have the bachelorette party you want! I don't think it's fair to say "no bars" just because one person is underage. If I was her I'd feel bad if my sister changed what she wanted because I couldn't attend.

Why not do something all-age friendly? I asked my MOH to think of something that revolves around us going camping for a weekend, as none of us are big drinkers or, in 2 cases, cannot drink. It's a win-win because everyone can have fun, and whoever wants to drink (of age, of course) can do so by the fire at night. A Bachalorette party doesn't need to be a drunken festivity, just needs to be fun!

Can you go to a dinner before hand, so your sister is included? Unfortunately, that's just the reality of her being under 21.

Do something that she can be included in before heading out to the bars, like getting nails done or dinner somewhere.

I don't really think there's anything wrong with 18+ bars compared to 21+. Just go to an 18 and up and she can hang out and not drink.

ETA- She could even DD

I'm in the same situation, however it's my FSIL who is 20 and a bridesmaid. I adore her and really want her involved! So I requested that we do something she can do as well. My twin is my MOH and she and I had to coordinate certain things to make sure my FSIL could attend. At this time, we plan on going somewhere 18+, going to dinner beforehand and getting a hotel.

Can you do a dinner before drinks? That way she can attend the first part of the evening?

I agree with some afternoon activities and a dinner she can attend, and then the rest of the night can be 21+

My daughter was my MOH and she is 19. We skipped the Bachelorette party and did a spa day instead. We got mani/pedis for the wedding, massages to help relax and had a great lunch out together.

Cross the border and go drinking in BC. You're on the west coast, you could do a road trip if it's that important to have an event that includes your sister and alcohol. BC has a more reasonable drinking age of 19.

I do not find it rude at all. I would say plan something just the two of you or go to a nice dinner before

When my sister was getting married I was underage and the MOH. I attended her bachelorette party and I knew her friends so it wasn't completely awkward. We started the day off with a spa day and everything which was nice, but I was left at the hotel while they went out. I didn't mind much, but I honestly would've rather just stayed home since I'm not a huge outing person anyway.

Thankfully I could celebrate with my sister during my bachelorette party which made up for it. I would ask her what she wants to do and what she's comfortable with!

My bridesmaid included her underage sisters in hers and then her parents picked them up when it was time to go out for the night which worked out. We didn't travel far outside of her hometown so it was nice - maybe that could be an option?