Unconventional wedding music

YOU should appreciate it.... It's not mom's wedding. I say go for it!

It's your wedding. FH will be dancing out to "The Future's So Bright I Gotta Wear Shades" (I agreed to dancing in order to secure agreement that he would NOT play the Imperial March) and I will be walking out to Magnetic Fields, "(My Girl Is the) Queen of the Savages." Your mother doesn't get to decide what music reflects you best.

Thanks girls

@ Cabell - I had to stop mine from doing the Imperial March as well. lol.

I'm just curious, does it have anything to do with the venue?

I used Metallica too

@ analy - not really. it's mostly from when FH first met all we could talk about was Metallica and he took me to my first Metallica concert. So it's more of sentimental meaning

Oh, I meant is her objection because she feels that the music is inappropreate for the venue (ie: a church). I think it's a great idea for you, very special! And just for fun, my metallica groom's cake.

Oh no. we're getting married outside at a golf course. this is the place www.brookstone-park.com.

That cake is amazing!!! Lars has hair! lol.

Yea, go for it then!

And thanks.

Why don't you people ever call ME to DJ...lol.... A METALLICA Grand Entry? You GO girl!!

All jokes aside...this is your day, make it how you want. You're going to remember this day until the day you die.

MAKE IT COUNT!

tjk

I think it should be how YOU want it.. unless your mom is paying for it, in that case things get a little messier.

In my opinion though, as long as it's tasteful and reflective of you guys, it should be cool. We're not using any traditional music..it's just not us and not what we wanted, but it's still respectful of a wedding ceremony, so no one we've shared our picks with have a problem with it.

I would try explaining and playing the songs for your mom, or maybe finding some videos of ceremonies that didn't use traditional music.. maybe it's just hard for her to imagine and so she's imagining it "worse" (whatever "worse" is for her - degrading, disrespectful, offensive, not formal, etc) than it actually is.

My mom didn't like my choice of gray bridesmaid dresses or purple shoes for me at first..common trends, but sometimes the older generation doesn't like change too much. You just gotta hand-hold for a bit!

I'm having a similar problem. FH and I are into everything BUT wedding appropriate music lol. I know his family (mainly his gma) is going to have a cow with the music we like. but you know what, I'm gonna make a corner for the b*tchy people to go and nag! because it is OUR wedding and WE ultimately are the ones who need to be happy with it. She can get over it, we will live with these memories the rest of our lives and we want to remember them being great, and exactly what we wanted.

We aren't gonna bust out with the super heavy metal, we'll keep it toned down but it's definitely 'different' than what people expect.

So glad to see we aren't the only ones!! =)

There are multiple schools of thought on this...

The first, and where your mom is likely coming from is that playing music that your guests won't appreciate can cause them to be uncomfortable or leave early. Given the price of a wedding reception, when guests leave early it's like throwing part of that money away.

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The second is that it's your day, and you should get what you want.

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And of course, if the wedding is held in the 'sanctuary' or 'chapel' at a church, the church sometimes puts limitations on what can or can't be played.

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That being said, I applaud your creativity and music choices. I'm sure you will have a great wedding. But before you come to blows with your mom, there are some alternatives that may help you meet in the middle. I've played Megadeath and similar groups at a wedding without running people out. Of course the groom's cake had the logo from GWAR on it. Grandma and the parents were so busy taking pictures of the mosh pit they forgot to be offended.

I love that cake it is amazing. I'm still trying to figure out a cool grooms cake. We have the same problem picking music my FH wants to play stuff he likes but even some of that stuff I don't even listen to because it's too heavy. The only thing we set in stone is the last song will be Cannibal Corpse "Hammer Smashed Face".

I've been thinking of solutions to the "unconventional music" thing, and am considering hiring a friend who plays the piano amazingly to do instrumental versions of the songs I want. That way the older folk won't recognize if it is a more modern song and the younger folk will enjoy the more modern twist. If you know someone who has a good musical ear, it may be a solution

We had unconventional music too.. the bridesmaids walked down the aisle to "Kiss the Girl" (from Little Mermaid) played on the steel drums, since we had a steel drum player for our beach ceremony.

The bridal party was introduced at the reception to "Roll Out" by Ludacris. And our first dance was "Wonderwall" by Oasis.

We played "Just a Girl" by No Doubt for the bouquet toss and "Pretty Fly For a White Guy" for the garter.

Have fun with it!!

When it comes to the actually ceremony and your personal dance songs I say go for it. But IMPO would play a mix of songs during the reception. I would hate for guest to remember my wedding as the one they hated the most. My bridal party entrance is going to be the rocky theme. It's going to shock most of my family seeing that we have a 5 piece orch, for the ceremony.

There are groups that do covers of modern songs on traditional instruments. Including strings, piano, and a variety of others. There are also some 'variations' of modern tracks done in a slightly different style. The 52nd Steet Buddha Ensemble or Richard Cheese are two good examples of this. I've even seen a 'pickin on' series that bluegrass covers of modern tracks. With the proliferation of music out there if you want to find a happy medium it's available. I've played AC/DC, Metallica, and many others during ceremonies in this fashion and no one even noticed... at first. But when enter sandman is recognized by some people they look around and then get a big smile on their face. Most people don't know classical music well enough to realize that it's not a classical track if it's played on classical style instruments. The same can be said of steel drums and other 'non-traditional' instruments. Creativity doesn't have to mean making someone 'mad' and a screaming match.

We are having a waaayyy nontraditional wedding. Its Halloween/Gothic wedding. The wedding party will enter to Thriller by Michael Jackson. I will be walking down the aisle to Witchy Woman by the Eagles. The reception will start out with Monster Mash. Oh, when we are introduced as husband and wife it will be The Addams Family theme song. The way we see our wedding its our day so it will be done our way.

@ Doddie - I LOVE your idea!! I always wanted a halloween wedding but FH hates halloween. I'm sure yours will be amazing

That is really cool, Doddie.

MusicMeister also has a great point. I have a bunch of Tori Amos covers by a string quartet, for instance. A lot of movie scores have some good stuff, too--not all of it is as immediately recognizable as the Imperial March. :p