Umm...how to ask friend if her $500 gift was an accident?

Wow, super generous! I don't know - you could call her and just say how nice and generous the gifts are and tell her it is definitely more than you were expecting...maybe just put it out there and see what she says? Or if you are close just straight up ask her.

Send a super nice thank you and let it be. If it was a mistake then, I guess she'd contact you. I would be insulted if I gave a really nice gift and was questioned about it. Maybe it is from several people combined, or your friend just really wants to be generous.

ETA: I gave my cousin a $400 wedding gift because I adore her and her DH, I think I usually gift $200, more if FH comes with. I'm not rolling in money, but I like to gift well and budget for it

Wow that's tough to do. Maybe just say "You know I love the gifts but that is just too much for you to do for us."

I would just say thanks

Yea i wouldnt ask either. She may get offended. Just write a very nice thank you

You don't. If it's an online shopping cart, she had many chances during the check-out process to correct it. I'm sure it was intentional and generous. Just write a nice thank you card.

I'm sure it was intentional - I mean you see the total before taxes and the next screen you have to verify the items again with tax included. If it was an accident she would almost have to be blind to not notice how much she was spending. Send a great thank you card :-)

There is a strong possibility that they really just wanted you to have it - I think it would be tough to accidentally buy that much stuff. Almost all online retailers let you review your order like 5 times before actually checking out, so she must have seen the total prior to pressing submit.

I would probably feel slightly offended if someone asked me if that were intentional on my part, so I would suggest just sending her a very nice thank you card...and mention that they were super generous and you and DH could not be more appreciative.

Your friend rocks. What is her address so I can invite her to my wedding? Lol. I agree with everyone else, just write her a thank you card.

Agree, let it be - there's no way to check out without seeing the subtotal and the shipping and whatnot, so she couldn't have mindlessly ordered it. She's just very generous, and clearly thinks highly of you and is happy for you. She probably just went through the registry and picked a group of things she felt would be useful or nice for you to have.

I would not ask. I would just send a thank you note.

That is a very generous gift. Just thank your friend for her gift. If you question her on the gift, it could make her feel that you don't think that she can afford it and that would be insulting.

Hmm...I thought I posted a response but it's not showing up...so sorry if I do this twice.

Thanks everyone for the fabulous advice! I in no way want to make her feel uncomfortable or look ungrateful (in truth, it made me feel a bit uncomfortable because we are both from ruralish Idaho and gifts like that...and the $150 bachelorette party gift she gave me...are just WAY more than is tradition here and I was sort of in shock) so I'm just going to say a very, very appreciative thank you and be so happy I have such a wonderful, thoughtful friend!!

ETA: @Sammy- hahahaha, she is definitely one fabulous friend!!

A few weeks ago I gave my cousin a $400.00 gift. He thanked me for being so generous and that was that. I think you should do the same

Omg. Expensive gifts make me so uncomfortable. I'm grateful but holy hell it makes me squirm. I'm not good at accepting them.

That's not a mistake, I give that amount for close friends at their Wedding

Send a super nice thank you note - she knows how much she spent.

When one of FH's best friends got married a few years ago one of their mutual friends gave almost $800 in gifts to the couple. They too thought it was a mistake. The gift giver was a single guy who had come into a huge inheritance and he just felt like spending the money. The bad thing about it was the couple talked openly about the generous gift to other mutual friends and it got back to the gift giver that the couple felt he spent too much money. Let's just say he did not appreciate others knowing how much he spent on their gifts. It created a rift that lasted for a good two years after the wedding.

@GrayCat - Oh jeez that would be awful, nope we definitely do not want that getting out, which is why I went to you lovely ladies at Weddingwire. Ok, I'm just being super grateful and enjoying the gifts!

@SunshineJenn - ME TOO!

I know this totally goes against everyone's advice *and* etiquette, but if she *didn't* mean to give that much, there's really no way for her to take it back, unless you open the door. I'd just say, "That was such a generous gift, I really don't want to be rude, and I just wanted to make sure you didn't press an extra zero by accident." I once bought a friend two $200 gift certificates by accident. I don't know what I would have done if he'd mentioned it, but things like that *do* happen.

Working at bed bath and beyond that is often a mistake. I would talk to your friend. I would hate it if she is struggling because of a store mistake