Uh oh ! grooms mom just picked same color gown as mine

I don't think it matters if you match colors. Might be a little weird if it was the same dress and the bride didn't request for you to be matching, but nothing really wrong. I think it's something you can let go of.

I don't think it is an issue- I have heard traditionally the MOG wears beige (which I didn't know until the wedding). I told everyone to wear what makes them feel beautiful and happy.

I don't think you should mind (seems like you don't know if you should or should not bother about this). It might be same color but it is a different style I am sure.

For what you are saying you think your daughter will not be happy and therefore you are unsure about how you feel/deal with the situation. I would suggest you tell your daughter that you don't mind (because I have the impression on really don't) and with that half of her unhappiness will probably go out the door - she probably is concern about your feelings regarding this too, although I think it is completely unnecessary.

I would not want to wear the same color as the other mother but I would also not change my plans if that happened. It's just an outfit and most of the time you won't be glued to each other.

I truly don't care what my mother and my FMIL are wearing to our wedding as long as they are comfortable, though FI and I have both told his mom to try and shy away from black. And the only reason we stated that was because she has been wearing black for the last 4 years straight since FI's dad passed away.

My mother has brought this up recently and I nearly wanted to tell her to hold her horses. The wedding isn't for another year and a half so right now, that is not anything that is important.

I would be okay with it. Good taste.

Honestly, if your daughter gets upset over something this silly, I would sit her down and give a her dose of reality before she walks down the aisle. Petty things like this bothering her is a sign of immaturity. Also, there's no "proper" rule or anything that states the bride's mom picks her dress first. Not sure where you read that.

Wouldn't bother me in the least. Truly not a big deal.

Honestly, I wouldn’t care. The mothers and grandmothers in my wedding. decided that they wanted to match with the wedding colors so they’ll probably all be wearing similar colors anyway. It’s not a huge deal.

It actually sounds awesome to have both moms in the same color— cool for pictures !

Lol ! daughter is not upset at all, I thought she might be ! I sure hope it's not the same dress !!! is it ok to ask to see what dress she picked ? I would like to make sure they are not to similar ?

A lot of people don’t seem to understand that it used to be the norm that the brides mother bought her dress first and the grooms mother would buy a more muted color, understated dress to the mother of the brides dress. This is not nearly as common as it used to be. If it doesn’t bother your daughter then I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it.

Who cares if they're the same colour?

I honestly can't see one valid reason the mob should take priority over the mog. I am sure you both will look lovely.

I don't see an issue. My mom got her dress and FMIL has not gotten a dress yet. I told them both to pick a color they like.

Well reading this has certainly made ME feel better. I always thought both mothers wear colors that match the wedding. Because my bridesmaids are wearing gold and my MOH is wearing navy, I asked both moms to choose a red dress.


When asked about grandmothers, I searched online for what was traditional and found that MOB and MOG are not supposed to be in the same color. One website even said it was a really bad idea! I was panicking trying to see if there was any way I could have them in the same color because I didn't want them to match the wedding PARTY, but still match the WEDDING, and happened upon this post. Since everyone says it isn't a big deal, I feel much more at ease.

My MIL picked her dress first and my mom bought hers yesterday - they are both the same color. This doesn't bother me in the slightest, I was more worried about them being comfortable that day. I wouldn't think that it should make a difference - normally you get to choose the color dress anyway, as long as you don't do white.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Wear whatever you want but don’t create drama where it doesn’t exist. Adults can and are expected to dress themselves including picking out the color.

There is a lot of nuance about the dresses that are worn by the MOB and the MOG. I think the tradition of the MOB choosing first may stem from the close relationship of mother and daughter and the desire to honor that relationship. Because the men of the wedding party often wear matching or very similar clothing there can be problems too. The florist at my own wedding had never met my fiance who had a little premature gray hair. The florist approached him and asked if he was the father of the bride as they reached up to pin the wrong boutonniere onto his lapel....awkward. Once the wedding takes place, the MOB will have to 'share' her daughter with another mother so the wedding day is quite a big deal. Etiquette can seem complicated and not everyone chooses to follow it, but often many of those rules make it easier to smooth the way.