Ughh I dont want bridesmaids anymore

Awww chica it will be okay-- dont let them stress you out-- always have PLAN B!!!

WHY do you have people in your bridal party that weren't your choice? I am not trying to be rude, but if you just placed them in the wedding just to have them in there how enthused do you expect them to be? Remember that no one cares about your day as much as you do or will. Unfortunately, that does not always include close friends and family. I have two bridesmaids and those are two friends that I have had since elementary school. My sisters aren't even in my wedding. There are just too many of them. I started off with 6 maids, but like Toni-Marie said Plan B. I cut them. Now I don't have the stress. I had to realize that you don't have to have a wedding party at all. The only folks needed are the bride and groom. The bright side is that you do have time to change some things around or get everyone on track. Best of luck to you!

I'm with you!!! I been getting the sammmmmeeeething!!! No replies, facebook updates while ignoring my text/call, not making payments, never asked them to do anything but get dresses and shoes, got into arguments with 2 of my bridesmaids (which whom I have never argued with them and we been friends for 13 yrs.) .. 2 of them are now crying broke after saying they will be in it. Just stress!! My family is giving me stupid suggestions as far as replacement bridesmaids which is very annoying if they know I don't deal with them people like that let alone invite them to the wedding.. I just want to cancel the entire bridal party!

I feel like I'm not going to beg you to be in something you don't want to be in.. It's so frustrating.. I feel your pain!!

Karla,

I feel your pain. Going through something semi-similar. But it seems like you are having a rougher time. Is it family politics that is causing you to keep certain girls hold the bridesmaid title?

After problems with three separate Maids of Honor (apparently, every woman I know is a flake LOL), I cancelled mine altogether and I feel sooooo much better!

That's why I only have a MOH, my daughter and she still can't decide on her dress!!!

So frustrating. Is it bridemaid act out day/month/year? I have 3-4 that always got something going on "Whoa is me" type issues. Im at the point as for whoever don't have their dress will just be a guest. Like Toni-Marie M. said have a plan B. My plan B is to have 5 instead of 9!

I have somebody in my bridal party because I am not entering this marriage alone I have a fh who i gave the option of adding ppl on my side and me having choices on his side @ Tiffany

@ kadisha thank you.....I am not alone!!!!!!! I felt like firing the whole party

@ Toni-Marie I do whoever doesnt have things done by the deadline is gone no questions or excused needed!

@ Melissa I am doing the same thing!!! I dont have time to play but being ignored annoys me

I do want to point out that you said they answer your texts/messages/FB, are you actually picking up th phone to talk to these girls. It could be that they don't feel very included if you aren't taking the time to sit down and actually have a converstation with them. If you have tried talking to them and ge tthe same type of response, give them an out. Just say "I was really looking forward to having you in my bridal party, but I'm not getting the feeling that this is something that you are not enjoying as well. Is there soemthing else you would prefer to do at the wedding, like just doing a reading for me or helping out in another way without having to be a bridesmaid?" This way you are letting them know you want them in the wedding, but you are giving them an out.

I kind of understand what you mean...I send my girls emails every now and then and I get responses from about 2 out of 6 of them. Most of the time its just information and doesnt require too much of a response but sometimes I would like an "okay", "thanks for the update" type response just to know that they received it and didnt have any questions. But I even had one girl say that I write books in my email lol...but I figured one long email is better than me sending one everyday with small stuff in it...

@ Jennifer I just said messages...i never send fb messages...I send text and emails...I make newsletters monthly .....and 8 out of my 9 i talk to often on the phone but no one wants to talk wedding all the time...when they bring it up we talk about it...and monthly i let them all know that I am happy and thankful they chose to be apart of my big day.....

@ Tiffany Yes! exactly a ok would be perfect.............and i had one said can you not make it a attachement just type it in the email....ummmm i design my newsletters with pictures etc. smh and i know no one will care about my wedding like me thats why i dont talk about it.....unless asked

I'm having the same issues! It sucks

Just unnecessary stress for u..Thats why I have just 2 bridesmaids..Not even an MOH..FH and I decided that we would have his brother and sister and mine. People we know we can count on without question. Sorry your going through that....But you do have time for changes.

It reallly does but I hope it will be okay in the end

Aw, I'm sorry! I hate dealing with girls LOL! I am only having a MOH and she's my bestfriend so I know she won't screw me over

I cant stand it