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Dedicated November 2020

Ugh! covid rant!

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Tori, on August 17, 2020 at 1:51 AM

So my brother got really upset with me for not rescheduling my Nov wedding because of COVID. To me, with social distancing, I don’t see a problem continuing on. My venue is outside even. Anyway my fiancé and I have decided to go on as planned. Well today, I got a call blaming me for being so reckless, and there’s absolutely no way my brothers family will be there. “Its too dangerous”. I understand why he would be upset. But, I’ve been researching ways to broadcast my wedding on Facebook or something to accommodate. That wasn’t a good enough answer for him because it’s not the same and how could I make him choose between the health of his family and my wedding... and that people like me are the reasons why COVID is still around. Ugh! It just frustrates me that people expect me to put my life on hold... and make me out to be this bad person. When COVID isn’t anymore deadly than anything else, and the cases have significantly decreased. And no one in his family is high risk. And I mean they probably can watch from home anyway. I’m trying to accommodate everyone while still doing what I want, but sometimes it’s harder than others. Anyone else continuing on even though some may disagree?

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Expert November 2020
Shirley · on August 17, 2020 at 4:42 PM
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It's a hard choice to make, but everyone has to make hard choices during the pandemic, including you. Do not let anyone make you feel guilty for going forward as planned. Let your brother know that you understand if he can't be there and look forward to celebrating with him in the future. Don't engage in a conversation with him about how dangerous covid is/whether it is safe to have a wedding/whether it's selfish to attend. Just stay on message: you understand that he cannot be there, and you are excited to celebrate with him in the future.
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Devoted August 2020
Sherri · on August 17, 2020 at 7:48 PM
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It's difficult and hard and challenging and you will never please everyone. If you postponed til March 2021, what if nothing is different? The not-knowing is brutal. Be strong with your FH. This is making you have tough discussions and conversations that will serve your marriage well. 🤞 you got this!
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Just Said Yes July 2020
Nicole · on August 18, 2020 at 12:13 AM
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Do not let anyone make you feel bad for doing what you want for your wedding! We got married 3 weeks ago, all outside, backyard wedding. We were completely understanding and respected everyone’s decision on whether they chose to come or not-however we still were judged and received negative comments from family members. I could be biased since I was in your exact shoes but I think it’s very unfair for someone to judge your personal decisions for your big day. Especially since it sounds like you are being understanding and respectful of your brothers decision whether to come or not to come...it’d be nice to receive the understanding and respect in return. We were having family members send us random news articles of people getting sick up until the day before our wedding- Like I needed anything more to stress about! I swear people act like brides don’t realize the risks and think we are being selfish when it’s the complete opposite-guarantee every Covid bride has lost sleep over stressing about whether their wedding will be safe for their guests or not. Try not to let it get you down-I’m sure a lot of his anger is coming from frustration because he’d like to be there but just taking it out on you and the situation. I had the same mindset-I wasn’t going to postpone my life for just one 5 hour party-your guests are all adults and can decide if they want to be there or not. It will be the best day ever no matter what! And for the record-we had a successful wedding in the middle of Covid and none of our guests got sick Positive Covid wedding stories are a real thing too, just never reported in the news!
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