Two Sizes Too Small

If she doesn't have a dress to wear, she can sit as a guest.

I don't think this is a valid reason for kicking someone out of your bridal party, are you ready to lose her as a friend? Maybe ask your other bridesmaid (the one who told you about it) to mention to her that it's being discontinued and she should get the size she is now and can always have it taken in if she loses more weight. I don't think it's anything you should worry about. It should be on her to get the right size or to find something to replace it if it comes to that.

If she doesn't have a dress to wear- she can sit as a guest.

Exactly Bailey- exactly.

Yikes. Seems like a pretty immature decision that she made.

Well, you have lots of time, which is a plus for the situation. However, I would think she would feel her own pressure to make sure it fits, right? I don't think kicking her out for this is appropriate. As a last resort, she could scour ebay for the dress in May if she's not down 2 sizes.

She has a long time, but why would she put so much pressure on herself?! Two dress sizes is a lot. A friend of mine did this and it took two girls to get her dress zipped, then she couldn't sit, eat, or pee all night. She looked pregnant in the wedding pictures. I was really sad for her because she's gorgeous just the way she is, it's just that the dress was too small.

Have you talked directly to her? I know you don't want to be discouraging, but she's asking a lot of herself. If she's still adamant about ordering the smaller size, I'd be highly tempted to buy the right size for $50 (especially you like the dress and might wear it yourself if she does succeed). I definitely wouldn't kick her out no matter what though since that's a friendship-ending move

Don't do anything, this is extra stress she put on herself, you don't need to take it on.

If she can't fit in the dress, that is her problem and she can either squeeze in to it and be uncomfortable or wear something that fits and sit as a guest.

Just leave her alone. She seriously has so much time to lose weight. You can't kick her out because she didn't lose weight in time.

If she doesn't have a dress, she can sit with the rest of the guests. You literally have 8 months before this is an issue.

It's true, I'd really rather not boot her from the party. Hah... I guess at the end of the day it's her problem. She'll have to make it work. And if she has to wear an alternative dress and ruin the look of it, that's guilt she'll have to live with.

How about your worry about being a supportive friend instead of worrying about "the look"

She didn't tell me about it, so I can't exactly bring it up to her. If she told me she wanted to lose weight for the wedding I'd say, "Let's join a gym together!" but that's not what happened. I'm not gonna out my other friend. It's hard to be supportive of someone who keeps secrets.

As long as she hasn't made a pass at your FH or murdered your mother, there is no reason to kick her out if your BP and end your friendship.

If I'm understanding this, you're not supposed to know what size she ordered? Another BM told you the plan in confidence? I'm not sure how you would address this with the BM that ordered the wrong size dress without breaking someone's trust or sounding controlling.

This was your BM's decision. She knowingly bought a size that was too small for her, knowing there was a risk involved. If it doesn't fit at the time of your wedding, she's responsible for finding a seamstress who can make it work. I know you said it can't be let out, but maybe a seamstress could turn it into a corset back for her.

Has the dress been discontinued yet? You could email all of your bridesmaids as a "general reminder" to order their gowns by a certain date since the dress is going out of stock?

One of my BMs tried on her dress in front of me about 2 months before the wedding and there were 4 inches to go for the dress to zip. I sent her the dress information so she could either figure out a way for the first dress to zip, or rush order a bigger size! A seamstress was able to fix the dress for her, but I'd just pass off all the information and let your bridesmaid deal with it. This shouldn't be your problem

The dress is not yet discontinued, but will be as soon as they run out of stock. They're pretty much letting it go until there's nothing left in the warehouse.

Just leave it alone. If she doesn't have a dress to wear it will be her problem.

Also why can't the dress be let out? I have never heard of that.

@Fall Bride that is exactly what I am afraid of.

Honestly if it was me- I would buy the dress in the right size to have as a back up. Only bc it's only $50. If it was more than $100 then it would be a different story. But in the grand scheme of things $50 might be worth it to avoid a meltdown the day of. And if she loses the weight she'll never have to know you bought the dress. And honestly it could be nice to have an extra dress on hand- at my friend's wedding no one figured out one of the bridesmaid dresses had come in in the wrong color until they were getting dressed the day of...

Your wedding is not until August. She definitely has time. I would wait a couple more months and then maybe have a get together where you all try on your dresses. If hers doesn't fit then hopefully she'll focus and get the weight off as she had originally planned.

If she doesn't have a dress she sits with the other guests. It sucks and is frustrating but sometimes you got to do what you got to do.

If she does it, great. If not, she can sit as a guest. Let her bring it up with you if she can't fit into her dress close to the wedding. She knows that it is a risk to get a smaller size.

What bailey and jo said