Two rounds of invitations

1. Please don't B list. The fat that you aren't concerned by that is not good.

2. Nobody is going to be able to properly RSVP for something six months away. Their responses won't be worth anything either way.

It's technically not six months away. A March RSVP date would make it 3 months away.

I think 6 months is too early to commit.

If you have a hard limit of 60 then just invite 60. Who cares if 30 people attend. Geez.

If you don't care about B-listing then you don't care about your invited guests. If you wanted to be able to accommodate more people, you should have chosen a bigger ceremony venue.

Also anyone getting b-listed doesn't have a relationship with people who got their invites first so they wouldn't know anyway.

January to June is 6 months. Nobody is going to tell you in January accurately if they can come in June.

Don't do this. It's really rude to both sets of people: those who have to rsvp early and those who get the scraps of the first set.

Invite 60 people and be done with it.

That's called B listing and it's extremely rude. Find a different venue or cut your guest list. If you can hold 60, you invite 60. It's not a difficult concept.

If you do this, it is extremely likely somebody at your wedding is going to say to somebody else, "Hey, don't you think it's weird we got the invitations for this six months ago?" And that somebody else is going to work out they were B listed pretty quickly.

Which is beyond the point anyway. It's not a good idea to do rude things just because you think no one will know you did them.

Either invite 60 people or find a new venue. Both of those are perfectly good options.

OP I'm getting married in Vegas too. Arias chapel only seated 60. In the off chance we had more than 60 in attendance we played it safe and changed venues.

Do not B List.

My wedding is this September

Our guest list has changed multiple times and I still don't have a good idea of which family and friends will be there.

Trust me people won't confirm until they absolutely have to.

Not to mention all the people that said they were going to be there and a few things have happened that now their plans are up in the air.

People can't confirm 6 months out.

I'm also b listing. Idc. If you give them until March I think that's fine.

If anyone had the idea that they're being b listed and find it terribly offensive, they can just decline the invite...

It's rude to send invites in January for a June wedding.

It's rude to expect RSVPs in March for a June wedding.

It's rude to B-list.

You're being rude all-around.

ETA: It's rude to listen to Chivy about anything wedding-related.

Your follow up comments lead me to believe you give no shits about the majority of people that will say b-listing is rude and you're going to say "thank you! Someone gets it!" to the first person that says they're doing this too and it's perfectly ok.

Being second best is insulting and rude. Don't make your guests feel like this.

@ lilybean No my post indicated I didn't care about b-listing because I stated it. My question was about the timing of the invites. I don't think it's rude to b-list people, and I don't believe any of my guests truly care about that. My guests are just happy to be celebrating with us. Receiving an invite three months before a wedding won't offend people. I was just trying to figure out if it makes sense or if I should switch the dates around.

Gross. B listing is always rude, and people will ALWAYS find out. Weddings are social events, people talk, and if you're sending invites that early, they'll talk even more.

You will end up outed, and you will likely lose relationships. This is a bad idea and a crappy way to treat supposed loved ones.

@Brittney- you really can't expect a suggestion on timing from people who almost 100% think it's a rude thing to do.

I'll ignore the B Listing idea because you know it's rude and don't care.

What happens when you send the first round of invites WAY too early, get declines back (because not everyone will know if they can come that early), send out your second round of invites, then have people from the first round change their mind (which is very likely because it's SO early)? What will you do if people get back to you at the appropriate time (1 month out) and want to come and you are over 60?

They would know because they got their invites so close to the wedding. It's a pretty obvious thing and it feels like shit when it happens to you.

Also @Chivy, you say if they think it's rude they can decline--I would decline AND be done with our friendship. I'm a second-tier friend to you??? It would suck.