Two room reception

No I would feel second rate if I was in the other room

It's not okay to have two rooms. Your hesitation is correct.

Nope, this is rude.

Nope, this is rude.

I went to a wedding recently where we were seated upstairs in the room. We couldn't see anything unless we stood up and to go down 2 flights of stairs for food, drink, and bathroom. I was not happy. Don't do this to your guests. Venue does not trump your guests good time. They will miss first dances, speeches, etc.

I've had two cousins have weddings at venues where they had to put tables in a second dining room. At the first, there weren't assigned seats. Those who didn't get to find a seat in the front room felt slighted. Half our family managed to get a table right up front, but the other half got stuck in the other room. We kept rotating who got to visit the good table. People were miffed.

At the second, the second room was separated by a wall that had a bunch of French doors that remained open. My cousin decided seat some of her VIPs in the other room, like WP members and their SOs so it wouldn't look like the second room was a bad place to be. It was still weird and there was a family friend sitting in the other room with the bride's brother that I never saw until he came over to say goodbye to us. It's just not fair to split guests into two rooms, no matter how careful you are doing it.

Nope been to a wedding like this, its rude AF.

Eta: I was in the reject room and FH was IN the wedding, he was the best man in fact. So I sat by myself. In the reject room.

This would be super awkward, either find a new venue or cut down the guest list

A venue I initially liked was rejected by us precisely because of this same reason of split rooms. There's no way to make the second room people feel anything but insulted/second tier. Unless you can cut your guest list in order to fit everyone to one room I would look for a different venue.

To me this is rude. I would have my feelings a little hurt to be honest.

There's no better way to piss people off.

That would irritate me too. I would want to be in the same room.

Thanks everyone! You've verified my hesitation and we're going to start looking for another venue

My cousin had a venue like this...is was a beautiful space...but we in the other room couldn't hear speeches well, or see any of the special dances...it was awkward.

Sounds like your venue was made for a smaller group, sorry but you will find the perfect one!

I don't like the fully separate rooms and as a guest would probably feel slighted.

My venue is technically 2 rooms but they form an "L" and the sweetheart table goes at the corner and can be perfectly seen from both parts of the L. All the dances, toasts, etc will be done in that same area so everyone can see without any difficulty.

I think it depends on how you set things up -- our venue is two rooms for but we are doing head tables in each room and will split our meal between the two rooms. We are going to do speeches, dances etc. before everyone is seated. If you love the venue you can work around some the details. of seating, you just have to be creative

I would feel very B-listed ... like, " why didn't I make the cut to sit in the room with the B&G?"

@Betsy- I still don't think that works. You will only spend half the time with each room of guests. That's still rude.

Find a venue that fits all of your guests comfortably so they can sit together. At most weddings, I go talk to all sorts of people including those I don't know. It's just annoying to have to go between two rooms of people.

So our venue holds 250 people. What she didn't say is that the first "room" holds 180. LUCKILY two large doors open to make it one big room in the barn. Thank goodness! I would hate to have to figure out the seating arrangement on that.. and to hurt people's feelings!