Sorry, this is a long one but any advice would be appreciated!
Religious background:
I was raised Catholic by a very devout catholic mother, but I have lapsed a bit and for some time. My fiance is a Christian- he's not sure which really. Yet, we both don't attend church much. The last time I went to catholic church was Christmas 2016, and a christian church October 2017, I think. And his parents are very devout Christians, the type of Christians that are opposed to Catholics and their beliefs.
Dilemma: We wanted convenience. So we booked a venue to do an outdoor ceremony and reception all at the same place. Then my mother threw us a curve ball, saying she would really like us to get married catholic, which meant in a church. Although I do understand her points and value the Catholic sacrament of marriage.
But realized that the ceremony that we envisioned at the venue would not be a "real" wedding... although we could walk down but no vows can be said, just some scripture to be read, blessing of rings and a testament of love that we could read to each other.
1. We did not plan on this, so my concern is would it be rude not to invite all of our extended family and friends to the church ceremony and just do a "fake" ceremony? Should I even care what others think? The venue is quite nice and the food and celebration should be unforgettable.
2. Or should I give up my Catholic upbringing and just go with a pastor at the venue?
(I know they say "it's your wedding" but my mom would be quite upset and she is helping pay for the wedding. His parents would be upset at the catholic ceremony no matter what.. but I don't really concern myself with their closed-minded ideals.)
