Two bridal showers? Isn't that wrong?

I'd say its okay as long as there isn't any overlap of guests. one strictly for family and family friends only, the other for friends only

I also want to point out that my MOH is friends with a lot of my family members so the guest lists would probably overlap a little.

It's not necessarily against etiquette to have two showers - but normally this happens when there is a large guest list, and there's no overlap of guests. It does seem a little strange to have 2 showers at the same location though - I normally see it where it's different places for different groups of family/friends.

This ALMOST happened to me, but I had my H talk to my MIL and she gave in to letting my MOH host the bridal shower for me, because I did not want two showers within driving distance of each other (but it's not against etiquette).

I don't think there's an etiquette for it. It's okay to have more than one shower, but since your guest lists will overlap it isn't ideal. Also, how much fun will it really be for you to have two showers at the same place?

I will be having 2 showers. My FH family lives 2 hours from my family, so my FMIL best friend is throwing me one for family/ friends up north and my MOH is throwing one South for my friends/family where I grew up.

@Elle, I actually love the location. We go there all the time and it was my first choice for our venue , but we went with something more affordable instead. I suppose I could tell my MOH a different place and try to avoid over lapping the guestlist. One would be much bigger than the other.

It's not against etiquette. How many people would be invited to each shower? How many of those would you consider overlapped invites?

@Katie There would probably be 80 people at the family only reception FH has a huge family.

My MOH and I grew up in the same small town. Most of our friends are related to us or really good friends with my family. If I kept is strictly friends that shower would consist of BMs and 2 or 3 other close friends if they could come in from out of state.

Honestly, I would just tell your MOH that your FMIL wants to host since your FH has such a huge family, and invite those friends to the shower that FMIL hosts. Hopefully she can help your FMIL with some of the planning. It seems silly to have separate showers where one of them would only be a few friends.

Tough situation but I can only see the point in two showers if people are from two completely different locations. I would just tell MOH that FMIL wants to plan. Maybe she can plan the Bachelorette party instead?

I was in a wedding this past July and there were two showers, but one was super awkward. The FMIL threw a small one, about 12 people, at a really fancy country club. It consisted of HER friends, and one cousin and the grooms sister. She didn't invite the bridesmaids or the mother of bride until the Bride asked her FMIL if we could go because she didn't know anyone. It was so awkward and the whole way home the Bride kept talking about how uncomfortable it was.

About a month later the bride's mother and sister threw a surprise bridal shower for friends and family and it was a fantastic time. The FMIL did attend it, but she didn't stay long. IDK I thought it was weird to have two separate ones. I only brought a gift to the larger shower, and the bride knew that and honestly didn't care, she was just so happy that I could go to the one thrown by her FMIL lol.

I just had my bridal shower, and it included all local women. Both his and my family, friends of mine and family friends of both his and my mother. I thought it was a great time for everyone to meet before the wedding. But my family prefers that, everyone or no one (hence the 240 guest list).

If you don't want separate ones tell her. I don't think people will mind going to two showers if there is a overlap in the guest list. People know they don't have to give multiple gifts.

Multiple showers are common and not at all an etiquette issue as long as the same people are not being invited. I will be having one in Texas hosted by my fmil's friends and fiance's aunts and then one in My home state hosted by my parent's friends. My MOH also wanted to throw one, but I told her to join as a co-host instead.

I've heard of people doing 2 showers, 1 for each side of the family. Personally I like the idea of having everyone together and getting to know each other before the big day but it's not rude either way unless you're inviting people to both (and therefore asking for 2 gifts from them)

I will likely be having two, possible even three showers. The ladies at the church I grew up at are already planning one, and my fmil told me that the ladies in the church FH grew up in want to throw one (and my fsil said when they threw her a shower for her and FH's brother's wedding, there were around 100 guests), and there's also a chance some of my friends from school will throw me one, though that would probably be more of a lingerie shower/bachelorette party type deal.

ETA: it's pretty common in my area for people to have multiple showers because of the different circles.

I would let your FMIL host the shower since the two showers would have an overlap of guests. Maybe you can convince her to let your MOH do something small like the games or favors.

As long as there's no overlap of the guest list, I think it's fine. Both my mom and FMIL offered to throw me a shower for their respective sides of the family. It's just too many people for one person to host (and no one wants to watch me open gifts from 70 women in the same afternoon)

Thank you everyone! I might see about splitting the list between his family and mine, and just overlapping our parents. I'll give my MOH a call today and talk to her about it. I really appreciate all of the advice!

I had a family shower last weekend and I'm having a friend shower this weekend. The only overlap of guests is my mother and FMIL because I felt they'd feel special to be included. I told them gifts were unnecessary, I just wanted them to enjoy a wedding related event with me.

I don't think this is wrong and personally it is working out great for me because I don't like being the center of attention, so splitting the crowd makes it more manageable socially. I also like that the older generation was able to include party traditions that are important to them while my MOH is able to have a more modern type of party for a younger crowd without stepping on anybody's toes.

I'm having two showers! My MOH and FMIL are both throwing me one. There's nothing wrong with it in my eyes!

I think it's fine as long as it's different invitees. It's a lot to ask anyone to throw a shower for both family and friends. That would be 75+ people in my case. I didn't want a shower but my Aunt insisted and we decided to do family only. The list is at 35.