Two Bachelorette Parties?

I don't think it's so much a matter of stepping on MOH's toes- but inconveniencing everyone who will be invited to both and feel like they have to attend. Why can't the Bridesmaid make it to Boston? Is it finances? Maybe you can help out and keep it low key? It it's scheduling conflicts then maybe the party can be rescheduled? If non of the above are possible, then I'd fly over to Boston and just have a girls day with her. Don't inconvenience anyone else to travel with you and spend money on a second party- even if MOH is taking on most expenses, usually bridesmaids pitch in. Plus, it would feel overdone to me. I feel the best alternative is you spending a day (or a few) with her. You can open invite to the other girls but don't make it a "bachelorette" party, just a get away weekend. This will make them feel less commitment.

Since it's totally different locales, I think it should be fine, especially considering the distance between the two. It's not like one is in RVA and one is in Charlottesville. Just openly communicate or establish the communication lines between the two planners.

PS. I'm also a Richmond Bride!

A little clarity- No one would be invited to both parties except the BM hosting party #2, MOH, and matron of honor.

Party #1 will be in Boston because most of us will already be there for the shower earlier that day, and it is this huge production my MOH is planning.

BM cant make it to the shower/Party #1 because she is running the New York Marathon the following weekend and cant financially swing both. Everyone else is planning on going to Boston as of now. I offered to pay for her flight to Boston but she declined.

so BM wants to throw a smaller party for my friends in Richmond (where I live now). She is the only member of the BP who lives in Richmond.

The clarity post makes a big difference - in this case, I'd say go for it!