Transgender Bridesmaid

No thoughts....stop trolling.

Umm your friend's gender has literally nothing to do with your wedding. How she "presents" should have absolutely nothing to do with whether or not she's in your wedding. If you want her in your wedding she should be in your wedding, regardless.

You should have who you want in your wedding. Who cares if they become topics of your wedding. It's your wedding and the bridal party is yours because you love them and want them by your side. Put your foot down for her and yourself.

Honestly, what's between your bridesmaid's legs is no one's business.

Please remind your mom of that and carry on with your day.

One of my sisters is transgender. (M2F) She is a bridesmaid in my wedding and I wouldn't have it any other way.

It sounds like you have a wonderful friend and are a wonderful friend. There will always be people who judge... Don't let those people win.

Who cares what your guests think, if you want her to be your bridesmaid, she should be your bridesmaid. End of story.

Troll senses are tingling. Have her in your wedding party. End of story.

Also, your "presents" comment is pretty offensive.

"Present" is actually a term used by the trans community. One of my sisters is MTF. I wouldn't jump to conclusions about trolls. That is offensive to me.

Have whoever you want in your wedding, don't let others dictate your choices.

Everyone sees the world differently and some things are not within a persons comfort level.

Do what is right for you and let them be challenged. If it's a problem, it's theirs to solve, not yours.

It's your wedding and no one else's. Do what you want.

It's no one's business. ..if you want her there. .have her there.

So if you couldn't tell from looking at her that she is transgender, why would she be the talk of your wedding? Just let her be a bridesmaid and tell your mom not to worry about it.

I don't understand how anyone will know if you don't make a spectacle of it. It's not like you're going to write Jane Doe, Bridesmaid (Trans) in your program. She is as much a woman as anyone else in your wedding party.

I have my cousin on my side FTM and love him no matter what. The fact that you are second guessing this is annoying, and pisses me off.

I don't think that the physical appearance of this friend or how she presents should matter in any capacity with having her stand by you on your special day.

Trolly McTrollerson.

Similar to a post a little while back about the dad having a problem. This is your wedding, have whoever you want in it and don't worry about what everyone else may think/say.

Your wedding is over a year (if you're not a troll), its too early to think about your bridesmaids picks.