Traditional vs writing your own wedding vows!

We are sticking to traditional. I am not always very good at putting my feelings in to words. I like traditional vows as it pretty much covers all the bases.

FH wants to write our own vows (He says this now, but I'm not sure he realizes how much work will go into this.) I like traditional vows because I feel like it's a timeless expression of commitment, and also I don't even know where to begin in writing my own.

We stuck to traditional. Part of the idea behind a wedding ceremony, to me, is that it should be universal and timeless, so that guests can feel like it's something they have participated in and should be supporting. If the vows become too tailored to the couple, that goal is lost. In addition, the traditional vows have been developed by a lot of people to be solemn and poetic. Too often, self-written ones are too long, written in an amateur fashion, too specific, overly sentimental, or too flippant.

Thanks girls! I have been leaning more towards traditional but I see other people doing their own and I start to think we should do it. However, I am a very traditional person and I think I just need to follow my gut and not worry about what others think.

I wrote my own vows because there was so much more that I wanted to say that went beyond the traditional vows. I still included things like that I would be there in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad. So even if you like the traditional vows, you can still incorporate them. Our vows were pretty long and we included things that were really specific to us and some things that were also silly. We typed them up on the computer and did a word count so we could make sure our vows were similar lengths. It was fun hearing his and the things he really cares about and his promises. It's really beautiful, a lot of people commented on how they loved how personal our ceremony was.

Traditional is fine, but writing your own is just priceless! I as a photographer, live for the moments of vows exchange. I'm notorious for getting teary eyed. Writing your own vows allows you to put into words what you feel for that person.

Write your own, you will not regret one bit! Make sure you have tissue handy for your guests (and photographer)

Love,

Carmen

I think I am going with the write our own but fh is more of a traditional kinda guy so I think I will give him a little speech before the vows

We decided to go the traditional route. I've been to some weddings where the vows are too long and repetitive.

We're doing non-traditional vows, but not sure if we'll write our own or have our officiant help us find some that will work for us.

We did our own but we could have stuck with traditional. I found our vows very simple and common. Not to say they weren't heart felt, they were, but we could have used the traditional vows with the same result.

We are doing traditional, the ones where you pretty much just say I do and I will because FH had a bit of a stutter and it gets worse when he's nervous, he was afraid he wouldn't be able to get the words out in front of everyone if it was more than that.

I actually JUST wrote mine. We weren't sure at first but I think it's more "us". I did weave in some of the traditional ones in mine though.

We are writing our own vows! I have wrote mine, my fiance says he is just going to speak from the heart! I'll let you know how that goes!!

I want to write ours. But FH really does not and he is not the type to be very expressive in front of an audience. So I told him he can look online and find some that he likes. But I am just not very traditional so I don't want to use the traditional vows.

Going traditional. FH feels more comfortable with it.

I think I want us to write our own. Incorporating traditional aspects or parts is fine, but I think I want our own promises to each other in there as well. We aren't very "traditional" in life in general, so I don't think "traditional" vows would suit our idea of what our marriage and promises to each other would be.

I've always loved the idea of writing our own vows. But neither of us feel comfortable expressing our feelings with a huge audience, so we're probably going to do traditional and just write letters to each other.

But I'm not sure because after Celia suggested on a post to do 3 things you love about the person and 3 things you promise to them, it seems a lot less daunting to come up with our own. But I'd still be nervous as hell.

We're saying both. We're inviting people that know us well, all close friends and family, so they all know we are mushy. I think I'd be more of a surprise if we didn't write our own vows. We're doing the traditional vows for our parents and grandparents.

We're writing out own. Our officiant suggested it as it will be more us and say what we really want to say as opposed to something generic that doesn't necessarily suit my FH and I

I like how 2nd Bride put it, and I think I felt the same way. Repeating a solemn vow that has been said by couples marrying for centuries, felt way more meaningful and real, like we were finally taking part in something that was way bigger than us.

We did write half of our ring exchange words though. The first half was by us, the second half were the traditional ring exchange words.