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Super October 2020

Traditional vows vs personal vows

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Emma, on August 5, 2020 at 10:09 AM

So originally me and FH were going to right our own vows. The more we talked about it the more stressed I got. I hate public speaking with a passion. I get major anxiety and I know I wouldn’t just be in the moment. I’d be thinking about them all day instead of thinking about FH. We are now talking about just doing the traditional “repeat after me” vows. We wanted to do personal vows so there was more meaning to them. I feel like personal vows are the norm now and people will think we dont “care enough” to write our own. Please tell me I’m wrong!

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Ashley · on August 5, 2020 at 8:34 PM
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It’s 100% okay to do traditional vows! It’s all about whatever you two want to do. If personalizing it is important to you, you could always just say one or two sentences to each other.
No one will be upset if you don’t, though. Seeing you get married is the important part. The exact wording is just part of the details.
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Michelle · on August 8, 2020 at 3:38 PM
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We ended up writing our own identical vows, but they were mostly pieced together from alternative vows I had found online from places like offbeat bride. We would have had the officiant do the repeat back method, but since I was the officiant, I just printed them out in a little ceremony book along with the other parts of the ceremony.
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Katharine · on August 10, 2020 at 11:40 AM
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As others mentioned, you can customize the "traditional" repeat after me vows.
Also, you could write your personal vows to each other and share them as part of a "first look" photo session. That way you're not anxious about speaking them in front of a crowd.
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