Traditional or Modern dress?

Personally I'm of fan of cultural wear. As a guest, I love seeing it! If this traditional attire is not something you wear often (or ever) I would take the opportunity to showcase it for your wedding! You could potentially remove/change the headdress for the reception to have a lighter/more modern feel later on. That being said, both styles are beautiful!

View Quoted Comment Actually the Qun Kwa' is only ever worn for a brides wedding, so yes one can only wear it to get married in. After reading everyone's thoughts I'm leaning towards the traditional. I wouldn't wear the head piece, I think you are right, this could be where I modernize a bit.

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Not sure where you are, but you could look into a local Chinatown or a heavily-populated Asian community, I'm sure there would be shops around! In my family, the mother usually makes the dress for the bride, but that was also back when all my older relatives were all seamstresses.

I think the headdress is probably where you have a lot of customizable options to make it more Americanized. Some relatives I've had didn't have a big headdress like that since they can be heavy and instead opted for simpler hair accessories. You could also do your "somethings" (blue, borrowed, new, old) as well if you are interested, would be a good way to add jewelry and such to make it more personal.