Hi all, can't sleep so I'm window shopping. I'm torn between wearing a traditional 'Qun Kwa' 2 piece or a more modern 'qipao'. I'm also up in the air about the color. I would prefer only wearing one dress the whole day. What are your thoughts?
They are all so beautiful! I love the traditional, they are gorgeous. The sleek sexiness of the modern is really nice too, especially for a more romantic feel.
So having come from a Chinese background, growing up I only ever saw the traditional ones when I went to relatives' weddings. Even my mom, who wore an American white dress for her ceremony, changed into a traditional dress for her reception. However, I think there is probably a neat way to do a modernized dress that has a lot of the details of the traditional ones, if that's what you're looking for. Or you can do both, traditional for ceremony and modern for reception.
I think it is always neat to be able to incorporate tradition into your wedding! I also think the modern ones are beautiful too. Is there a dress that would be a combination of both? A modern style, but with some traditional elements?
I am choosing qun kwa for my wedding because I think it’s more unique compared to the modern. I feel like you don’t get to wear qun kwa everyday, but the modern can be worn for CNY.
I’m also in a similar position! I was leaning more towards the qipao since it was a style worn in the 20’s, and here we are in the 20’s again. But after speaking with my mom, she prefers me in the qun kwa since it’s more traditional. It also has a longer history as a wedding dress. So now I’m leaning more towards the qun kwa. I will have a modern dress, a western style white wedding dress, so I think I’ll go traditional for the other. Since you prefer to be in only 1 dress, choose the one that will make you the most comfortable since you won’t be changing out of it. As for the white qipao, check with your family if they like it. My mom is totally ok with a regular white wedding dress but not with it on traditional Chinese celebration stuff since white is also a mourning color (I also showed her a white one).
I've seen a few that are a bit of a mixture of both, but they all look a little costumy. Kind of like how Hollywood would interpret a Chinese wedding. I'll keep looking for a nice balance.
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This was my thinking too. It really is a once in a lifetime dress. Part of my hesitancy is because we are having an intimate wedding with only 15 people. After the ceremony we will go to a nice restaurant. I thought it might be a bit much for such a modest affair.
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Haha I hadn't actually thought about the year. Yes, comfort is important. My Cousin told me hers was so heavy that she was happy to change after the morning festivities. As for the white, my Family is super open, but I do understand the connotation. That's also why I thought it would be more special to wear red. I've never really fantasised about a white wedding.
That makes sense, I think if I had to pick one, I'd go with the qun kwa. I love the modern dresses a lot, but you could honestly get one of those and just wear them to a fancy party if you wanted, where as the qun kwa is kind of a one-type-of-event dress. Hope this helps, good luck!
I love when people incorporate traditional items/clothing. If you're stuck between both,, maybe go with the traditional one at least for the ceremony and then the modern one for the reception.
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I think you're right, I'm starting to lean more towards traditional. The next problem is finding out where I can actually go and try one on. Online dresses aren't very expensive, but I'm afraid that the quality won't be up to par. Any thoughts on how I can still incorporate a touch of my American side into my look?
