Toxic Parents

Yeah they come to my work and are just as obnoxious there too. My coworkers can't stand them.

Mna is right. Just be done. I know it's easier said than done, and trust me when my dad messages me asking when I'm going to talk to me I have to remind myself of how I feel every time he's in my life and the fact that he has never apologized for saying "piece out, have a good life." It sucks, but I feel better in the end. You don't need that kind of bullshit in your life.

I agree with PP in that they are crossing the line with work, I would ignore them and if they do show up tell them to leave, that it is your place of employment not theirs and if they have an issue follow through and restraining order is your friend. That is bull crap

Melissa - Not to rant, but It took me years to sort through feelings like that and feelings of rage towards my dad (still working on the rage part). He blamed me for a lot of things I had nothing to do with growing up and always makes himself the victim. He can do no wrong. But what I had to come to realize is that I don't have to give in to that. I know who I am. And even though I am still working on not blaming myself for every little thing, I am happy with myself as person. I have room for growth, and as far as finances go I will continue to work on my own stability. But there is nothing wrong with being in that place. You do not need to be ashamed or feel guilty for where you are at. As far as I can tell you have a lot of patience to continue to be kind to people who don't treat you right. Be proud of yourself and don't let anyone convince you that they know your worth better than you do (even if they are your parents). Sorry again that you're dealing with this!

Thanks @kiwi you're too sweet. I'm gonna try the ignore route for now and see what happens.

@Melissa.. I am sorry your parents are so sucky! Have you tried having a conversation with them? Unfortunately maybe that one serious, let it all out type of convo is needed. Maybe that will help.

I texted my mom that I loved her even though I don't feel it back before going on fb to delete them and all I see is a big fat "hahahahahaha" on her status the exact time I sent the message. I'm just so heartbroken.

My mother is toxic and I've struggled for years to jump so far out of her very large shadow that it took moving 1400 miles away away, not talking to her (all forms of contact stopped) and refused to include her in anything. It worked until I went back to my hometown for more schooling and things started to fall apart again. The yo--yo finally died out when my sister was killed (I guess her death put my mother in her place).

What I'm getting at is you need firm boundaries. If you really want to cut them out you can't do it half way. If no calling/texting/talking doesn't work and you need to involve legal methods than it has to be done but I'd sugesst being really sure that's what you want first. I'm sorry for any child that has to deal with toxic/draining parents or people in general. Life is too damn short to fill it up with that kind of mess.

If they show up at your work have security escort them out. If you don't have security call the police!

You have to learn to block people like this out of your life. I know it sucks because they're your parents but sometimes they don't deserve that respect. My dad has never been active in my life but he is always the 1st one to get praise for me graduating college, getting married without being knocked up, etc. He and my step mom have taken their petty ways to Facebook. I called and corrected them once, but I realized some people love to play victim and you have to let them bask in their own self hate. Don't let then steal your happiness. Create those memories with your husband and make a note to never treat your kids in the same manner. I always pray my FH never neglects our children.