Jessica
Beginner October 2020

Too soon?

Jessica, on October 5, 2019 at 12:35 PM Posted in Planning 0 24
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FH and I have been engaged since January and the wedding isn't until 10/2020. I`ve been mildly planning here and there. buying stuff for DIYs and getting basic ideas for what i want but TBH everyone seems a little uninterested and I`m wondering if its because its so far away? maybe i talk about it too much lol. Also I am not sure if its too soon to pick things out or anything maybe a little overwhelmed. not 100% on what im doing here.

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  • Destiny
    Rockstar May 2020
    Destiny ·
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    Not to early esspicaly if ur doing a fall theme wedding nows the dtime to be buying out the stores, no 1 will be as intrested in tbe wedding as u are unfortunately lol. Thats what us wedding wire people are here for
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  • Briana
    Dedicated December 2019
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    Theres no such thing as too early. Start looking for sales and such and just start checking things off your list because the sooner the wedding comes the more stress comes. BUT if you get a lot done early on then you wont have as much stress. Lol. And as far as everyone else being uninterested, Noone will be more excited than you about your wedding. Maybe when it gets closer they'll get more excited about it. But get planning girl time is ticking! Have fun!! It's only a year away.
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  • Erin
    Dedicated September 2021
    Erin ·
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    I got engaged last month and we’re not getting married until 09/2021. It’s not too soon! You have more time to find better deals on things so plan as much as you’d like!
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  • Jessica
    Beginner October 2020
    Jessica ·
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    Awe thanks guys. This actually made me feel way better. Should have started posting and commenting sooner lol
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I'm glad you're feeling better! I agree with PPs that the excitement will become greater as your big day approaches!

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  • Caitlyn
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Caitlyn ·
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    You do whatever YOU feel is necessary and whatever makes you happy! I just got engaged in August and our wedding is set for September 2020. I’ve already booked the venue, and bought my dress. We’ve made our guest list and formed our bridal party. The only reason I’m moving quickly is because I work a full time job and I’m currently in school full time for my Masters so I want to keep on top of the really important details.
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  • Katie
    Devoted November 2020
    Katie ·
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    I'm 11_21_2020 and have been planning. I have a photographer, venues, dj and dress! And we just did engagement pics. And soon I'll be picking my bridal party
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  • Heather
    Expert October 2019
    Heather ·
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    This is the perfect time to tour venues! You’ll be able to see exactly what they’ll look like during your wedding month!
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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think it's too soon at all or too far out. I think the disinterest you're feeling is because people aren't as excited as we hoped they'd be. I learned that during my wedding planning too that I always hoped my friends would be more enthused but they just aren't. They're happy for you but I guess at the end of the day, it's also not necessarily about them for them to be super interested as we would like
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  • Megan
    Super November 2020
    Megan ·
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    People may seem uninterested because to them it’s so far away but it’s never too early to start planning. Venues and photographers frequently book up 1.5 years in advance.
    Good luck!!
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  • Adree-Anna
    Dedicated November 2020
    Adree-Anna ·
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    Girl I'm getting married next November, I have so much done but also feels like nothing. Now is the perfect time to be shopping for decor, when it's all on sale
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  • A
    Dedicated March 2021
    Ali ·
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    I am getting married 11/2020 and have already hired 6 vendors and picked out the venue. It's never too early to start! I'm lucky my mom is crafty because most of our stuff including our invitations and save the dates which we bought already.
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  • Emily
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Emily ·
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    I've been engaged since Aug 2017 and not getting married until August 2020. I was planning the majority of the last 2 years but really started planning hard since we hit the 1 year away mark. Never too early to start in my book. Plus it allows you to enjoy the process in my mind. I know so many brides that hated wedding planning bc they tried to plan a wedding in under 10 months. I love it but I'll have had 3 years to plan once we finally get married
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  • Dynesha
    Dedicated June 2020
    Dynesha ·
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    Vendors should be giving you great rates if you’re planning this far out. It not too early because you can be searching for your decor with enough time for it to go on sale. The only people that may be interested in the wedding talk may be the people that ask 😅
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  • Desiree
    Expert March 2020
    Desiree ·
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    Girl, the day I got engaged, I opened up a bridal magazine. I say have at it! It takes a year (approximately) to plan a wedding anyways, so this is the best time to start. It's all about you having fun anyways Smiley heart And one thing I've learned the hard way, no one will be as excited as you about your wedding. So don't let other people's silence get ya down.

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  • Kendra
    Devoted July 2020
    Kendra ·
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    Definitely not too early to start planning and picking things up! It’ll help down the road with buying items i stead of having to buy everything in bulk
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  • Tbear
    Devoted October 2019
    Tbear ·
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    I started out almost two years in advance. Did a LOT od DIY and DIYs usually take longer than one expects. In addition, starting early helps the budget because now you have time to make informed decisions that work well with the bank account.

    In the middle of our planning, we had a family member's health decline and finally his passing.

    If we didn't start so early, we would never had been able to pull things together AND deal with the "unexpected". Life sometimes just gets in it's own way.

    Start early. Take your time. ENJOY this process.

    As for people being psyched about your wedding, honestly they won't get excited until it gets closer. Yet this website forum proved to be a HUGE benefit for me when wanting advice, sharing ideas etc with people who were just as excited about wedding stuff as I was.

    Basically, (lord help me a gay man making a sports reference even if it is just from a Kevin Costner movie): "If you build it, they will come."

    Now, put your reservations aside and start planning!

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  • Lisa Marie
    Devoted October 2020
    Lisa Marie ·
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    We picked and put a deposit down in March for our 10/2020 wedding. We already have all the major vendors in line. Next is my dress. We tossed around the little details for a while and finally settled on something we both love. So I personally don’t think your doing anything too early. Vendors book quickly! And you don’t want to be scrambling last minute. And if you do change your mind, you have time to purchase or redo the diy’s. Good luck!
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  • Sexypoodle
    Super October 2020
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Same here... engaged 1/11/19 and wedding is 10/10/20. I pretty much have all the plans and ideas worked out. However I don’t let it consume my life, so I definitely don’t initiate convos about my wedding (I hate when people do that).


    Most of my friends will say, “Hey, what’s going on with the wedding? I haven’t heard any updates”. When they ask, I’ll tell them very small pieces just to appease them or I’ll say that I’m still deciding. But, honestly, I don’t want to give up all the details. I want them to see it when they show up and be wow’d.
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  • Holly
    Savvy October 2020
    Holly ·
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    I feel exactly the same way, in my opinion the next year will fly by so fast. If you know what you want go ahead and get it done or buy it now.
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