Too soon for bridesmaid proposal?

View Quoted Comment So spot on !!

View Quoted Comment I’m such a planner haha sometimes idk if it’s good or bad

View Quoted Comment Fingers crossed you guys can have your big wedding!!

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Thank you so much!

I would recommend waiting because things can change prayerfully they won’t but it’s always that what if factor.

I would wait. Hopefully Covid is not a concern in 2022 but I’m definitely having regrets of having a bridal party when the guest list has downsized. Especially if you aren’t sure about the 4th I would wait. You don’t want to have any regrets like me.

View Quoted Comment They people who you have chosen wouldn’t be apart of your guest list if you have to downsize ?


I don’t have a lot of “family” coming so they would be on the list regardless.
What did you have to downsize to and what state are you located in?

View Quoted Comment They are but depending on how much we may have to downsize that maybe 12 people standing up and and not many people seated. Hopefully it doesn’t happen.

Wait until you get closer. Trust me time can change things. I asked two years out thinking that nothing would change between friendships. That I'd definitely close to the wedding still want these ladies in the wedding. A year out some friendship changed and I ended up cutting 2 bridesmaids lose. I couldn't replace them either because all my other friends knew who was going to be the bridesmaids nor would I even feel comfortable replacing them even if others didn't know who was in the wedding.


Plus on top of that there are many brides posts on here all the time about regretting their choices in bridesmaids.
I totally get you are excited but trust me it better to wait.

View Quoted Comment Would you guys consider postponing?


I booked out to 2022 in hopes I could have a decent amount of guests.
Especially since we all pay so much for a wedding. I was told from a few venues even if there are restrictions, I would still have to meet the minimum for that day regardless of my guest count at 150 or 50 😳

I got engaged in June 2020, getting married in June 2022. I asked my bridesmaids July 2020 and am already starting to mildly regret a couple of the choices. I would recommend waiting until 1 year out!

I’m only having a maid of honor. Getting married 10/30/2022 and I already formally asked her, and she happily accepted. My fiancé already asked his best man as well.

I’m getting married April 16, 2022 and I’m asking my bridesmaids this weekend. I found some really cute proposal boxes on Etsy that I’m going to send. If you feel like your relationship with all of them is solid and nothing will change between now and closer to the wedding then there’s nothing wrong with sending them early.

View Quoted Comment Etsy has so much cute stuff !!!

I proposed to my matron of honor pretty early because 1. We both knew she was going to be my MOH and 2. She wanted to help with ALL of the planning.

I got engaged August 2020 and our wedding is May 2022. We have booked our venue and I just ordered the proposal boxes. I plan on asking in February or early March since I'm still waiting on one item I'll be putting in the box. My matron of honor has already gone dress shopping with me without even knowing she will be in my wedding. She is my closest friend, one is a friend from high school whom I spend all major holidays with and one is my cousin ( lives in the Caribbean). My 4th bridesmaid is one of my fiance's sisters, so I'm not concerned about that. If you have a strong relationship with them and you feel comfortable asking them, then go ahead.

There are countless threads detailing why not to ask them earlier than 8 months. Friendships and relationships that are years old over and done because of wedding planning. Same for asking people out of obligation that they don't like and hardly know.


The only thing they need to is get a dress and show up the day of the wedding to support you and have fun.

View Quoted Comment Plus if you go through posts on here about bridesmaids you see a lot of brides who regret their decisions about bridesmaids cause relationships they never thought would change ended up changing. Friends true colors final show, you grow apart, you realize that people you thought had your back don't actually have your back. There are so many problems that can happen in that amount of time.


I asked my bridesmaids 2 years in advance and ended up regretting it with 2 of them.

I would definitely wait. Speaking from my own personal experience I had originally planned to ask a friend I’ve had for close to 10 years to be in my party until I realized her political views and racist statements via facebook were nothing short of alarming this past summer and have since removed her from my life.


Suffice to say I’m so glad I waited until I was closer to the date of our wedding to ask my party! You’ll avoid any unpleasantries and cause less stress for yourself

I asked my bridesmaids and Matron of Honor right after getting engaged in August. I knew 100% who i wanted to share this day with and these ladies have been in my life for 10+ years. Also, im getting married in April so it was 8 months out anyways