Hi everyone!! I got engaged November 2020, and just booked my venue for September 23rd, 2022. Is now too early to do a bridesmaid proposal ? Or since it’s a long time away wait til closer to a year out to ask my ladies?
I wouldn't ask until about 8-6 months prior to the wedding. There isn't anything they do any sooner than that anyways. Asking too early, can late result in regret. There have been so many awful stories about brides who asked their bridesmaids too soon and later wished they hadn't because their relationships with their bridesmaids changed. It is better to wait and make sure you still have a strong relationship with the girls you want to ask rather than asking now and wishing you had waited.
Yes, I would suggest waiting 1 year to 6 months out! We even asked in that timeframe and 1 couple (bridesmaid and bestman) aren't going to be in our wedding anymore. We maid proposal gifts and everything for them too.
We ordered flasks engraved with each of the guys names and their roles, so now we have 1 that is not needed anymore, 1 that is the wrong role, and we need to order more.
I had find another bridesmaid to ask, and my fiance changed one of the groomsmen to a bestman and asked another person to be a groomsman. Had to go around and remake more gifts as well. But it's okay I'm happy with the bridesmaids I've now chosen!
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With waiting 6 to 8 months out though wouldn’t they miss stuff? I’ve heard dresses take that amount of time to get ordered and fitted- don’t they come to the appointment?
Yes, wedding dresses can take that long, but only my maid of honor went with me to get my wedding dress. I honestly wouldn't take a bunch of people with you otherwise you could get some many different opinions that it would just be overwhelming.
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The three I would want for my bridesmaids I would want their opinion over anyone’s is my issue. My mom sometimes doesn’t say nice things about my weight and my grandma - in - law is way too opinionated- said my engagement ring looks like costume jewelry 😒
I would probably ask before you start dress shopping so they can be a part of it if you want them there.
My experience was a little different. The one girl that is no longer a part of the wedding went with me once, after that I went by myself a bunch til I narrowed down my dresses and had my mom and sister come with later (they were also super scared of COVID so didn't want to go in the beginning). I also have 2 bridesmaids out of state (so I shared tons of pictures with them but they weren't physically here), and then I asked the other after I already got my dress.
I’ll go a little against the grain here and say I think it depends on your relationships with the people you want. I asked my girls because I had been very good friends with them for 10+ years and nothing had ever changed in that time period, so I felt comfortable asking them almost 2 years out. One is my cousin so I know she’s not going anywhere. And we are 8 months out and not much has really changed for me with my relationships! But I’ve known my girls a LONG time. So I’d say if you aren’t absolutely sure you’ll change your mind in the future, you should wait.
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3 of the four I’m absolutely sure... but then I don’t want to ask the three then ask the fourth later 🤔 one even came with me to venue shop before I even ask her !
Yah, it kind of was. I personally made each card and gave proposal gifts to everyone so I needed to meet up with her to give her the gift as well. When I reached out to find a time to meet up with her, without it being obvious, she had mentioned seeing my other cousins Instagram stories with me asking her to be a bridesmaids and asked who else was in my wedding party. That part was awkward, so I listed all the bridesmaids so far and said but we are still deciding if we want to add more people.
I saw her a few days later and gave her the proposal gift. She also didn't get to be a part of picking out the bridesmaids dresses, but she is super easy going and said she actually hated doing that part in other weddings and she preferred that I just tell them what to wear. So it worked out!
