Too passive aggressive bridesmaids

Thank you ladies for your advice. It’s hard to hear that I care too much about my wedding. I’ll focus on other things for the next year.

View Quoted Comment It still doesn’t sound like there’s anything actually passive agressive going on here. It also sounds like theyre telling you they’d prefer a little more guidance on the dress thing. I got one would hate it/feel really anxious about it if I didn’t have some serious guidance.

but, like others said, I’d definitely table the dress discussion for a while. Not only is it too early to be on them about this, I’d say it’s too early for you to be making decisions about their dresses. I for one have re thought my dress ideas several times over the past year, and now going for something totally different than my first thought, partly just changes of heart on my part, and partly to better fit other details of my wedding as they have come up and been settled on.

good luck with everything, but do try to let it go a bit— preplanning sounds good in theory , but it really causes unnecessary stress

View Quoted Comment Whoops missed your last comment on the second page!

hah, I feel ya. My planning has definitely gone in waves. Initial excitement but no decisions made, then a good period of seriously getting down to business with decisions. But once I got the big anxiety causing stuff out of the way I took a little break, which was great and made getting back into the small details extra fun

Yeah I think you're just talking about it way too soon and it's not on their radar yet as something they should be thinking about. I'm getting married in September of this year and we are just now starting to talk about dresses. They probably just aren't too interested in discussing it because this is something they won't need to be worried about for another year.

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Them saying "we'll wear what you want us to wear" is not being passive aggressive at. all. That's called being a good friend, saying they'll wear whatever makes you, the bride, happy. You have a ton of time before this should even be an issue. If it's making you sooo crazy not having this settled, then you should just pick the dress for them, and then let them order in a year, when it's actually appropriate to be ordering them. No one cares about your wedding as much as you do, and no one cares about a wedding that's not for 18 months like you do. They will be excited when the time comes, but only as long as you're not bombarding them constantly with wedding stuff every day until then. You can care about it and work on it as much as you want. But you can't expect them to have the same level of enthusiasm as you do this far out.

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Hang in there! Just focus on getting the big things booked with your fiance and maintaining normal friendships with your bridesmaids, talk to them about things other than the wedding and spend time with them! Planning a wedding is a huge part of your life, but don't forget that bridesmaids are forever friends so you don't want to strain the relationship by only focusing on your wedding. As it gets closer they will definitely be more excited! Trust me, these next few months will fly by and before you know it you'll be dress shopping with your bridesmaids, drinking champagne and talking about the bachelorette. Just don't rush things