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Kathy
Savvy July 2017

Too Old To Make a Big Thing of My Wedding

Kathy, on September 28, 2016 at 10:39 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 38

I just go engaged and I am so happy, honestly can’t believe he is ready to get married. The only thing is this is my second marriage and I am defiantly not a young bride. I am 46 years old and feel like this is my first marriage again. I’m looking at venues, dresses catering church. I am literally...

I just go engaged and I am so happy, honestly can’t believe he is ready to get married. The only thing is this is my second marriage and I am defiantly not a young bride. I am 46 years old and feel like this is my first marriage again. I’m looking at venues, dresses catering church. I am literally excited am I making too much of my wedding. Is it appropriate to go to halls expos and make this like this is my first time?

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  • Sara
    Master April 2017
    Sara ·
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    I see nothing wrong with it. Go for it!

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    I was married for the second time on my 56th birthday. And we did the whole thing, with a synagogue, dresses, veils, and two receptions (one after the ceremony in Massachusetts, and one back home).

    We didn't do wedding expos only because a lot of them are heavy with the most expensive vendors. But that would have been true regardless of our ages or whether there had been any previous marriages. If you find them fun and/or a good source of ideas, there is no reason not to go.

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  • DarasoontobeLatham
    Super October 2016
    DarasoontobeLatham ·
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    I'm 48 and never to old to be excited to be getting married to the love of your life. Enjoy every bit. Congratulations!

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  • FutMcFarland
    Super January 2017
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    Do it girl! You're never too old to love, or to be happy. Good luck!

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  • Simca
    Super April 2017
    Simca ·
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    I'll be 45 when we get married. I'm having a dress, veil, the works lol. Embrace being a bride weddings are ageless Smiley smile

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  • Y&F
    VIP November 2016
    Y&F ·
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    There's nothing wrong with feeling like a princess again. Enjoy the moment! Your age has nothing to do with feeling excited. Enjoy! Congratulations! Smiley smile

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  • Melissa
    Super December 2016
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    I'm 38 and my fiancé is 47, and he wanted a big wedding..I was good for a nice elopement..I say run with it and have fun!!

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  • Midwest May
    VIP May 2016
    Midwest May ·
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    I think the only reason this has ever been side-eyed was that as we get older our priorities tend to change and the age group overall look more to the practical side. Doesn't mean it's a rule or etiquette or anything else. You plan and enjoy whatever style celebration you both want. You probably have more disposable income than the young ones and it's your right to spend it any way you want.

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  • Stephanie
    Super July 2017
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    I'm 45. This will be both my FH and I 2nd wedding and we are going all out this go around. Neither one of us had a big wedding our first time around. We are both very excited about planning our dream wedding.

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  • OGSue
    Master August 2016
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    Enjoy your day! As long as it's the celebration you want you should do it! You shouldn't feel like you can't celebrate it based on what you think others will think.

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  • MrsDrum
    Master June 2017
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    It is a wedding. It is a BIG deal!

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  • WaffleBread
    Super February 2017
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    Too old?! You're not too old at all!

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  • A
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Ann ·
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    We are both 59 and on our 2nd marriage. I already have a relative telling me a church wedding is wrong. Your comments were so reaffirming to me. I agree. Let’s rock our day!!!
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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    You do you and ignore the naysayers who say you can't do things because of your age.
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I asked this question a but ago - I am 51 and have been married before.
    I felt like I was being really silly, I am SO INTO THIS! I got lots of encouragement to enjoy myself and do what makes me happy, and you should too!
    My kids - 18 and 23 are super excited. It’s kind of cool, we are connecting as more like friends planning this instead of mom and daughters. Have the wedding of your dreams!
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  • Amy
    Savvy June 2021
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    I say do what makes you happy. I personally don’t believe in “too old for” thinking. I’m 43 and this isn’t my first marriage either. I’m doing what WE both want to do. My personal thoughts are I want to enjoy my life to the fullest, create memories and if this makes me happy why shouldn’t I do it. Just my view.
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  • Jamasonmd
    Dedicated July 2021
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    Go for it! I am 61 my F/H is 62 this will be the second marriage for both of us. We are having the biggest party we can. Our bridal party include 16 people. We are doing it all big dress, tucks and gowns! My children are grown. So, if I can do it you most definitely can!! Do whatever you want!!

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  • Irene
    Just Said Yes August 2019
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    My friend was only 34 getting re-married and didn’t want a bridal shower because it was her second wedding and I legitimately thought she’s insane. She ended up having one skipping the registry. For the wedding she went all out
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