Too old to be a Bride?

I am 32 and just engaged! Studies have shown millennials are marrying older, but their marriages are more likely to last than the prior generations. I have changed so much since my early 20's, I couldn't imagine having gotten married at that age!

I totally see the opposite. Most of my friends are in our mid to late 20s and not married, many not even in a relationship. We are 27 and were one of the firsts to get married. We do however have a couple friends who got married younger who are already heading to or already are divorced.

I was mid 40’s (my 1st marriage), my hubby was mid 50’s (2nd marriage). Our friends & family were thrilled and we were giddy! We definitely prioritized things differently being older and best of all... we planned the wedding WE wanted. Worth the wait.

It was annoying that most magazine ads & articles use 20-something models. But so do all fashion magazines. Oh well.

I'm in my mid-30s, FH is not quite 30 yet... granted, we are in the NYC metro area.

It seems to be a complex amalgamation of economics, local culture, education, and all those things. I was engaged before, when I was 24. That wedding never happened (thank GOODNESS, super abusive relationship)... my parents were married at 20/21... and divorced around 30 years later. FILs got married in their early 30s and are still going strong.

On the other hand, I *do* know people who have been married since their early 20s, but they also work really, really, really hard on their relationships. And it's only a handful.

Love is love is love is love.

Who cares how old you are, so long as the relationships are healthy?

I'm 35 and my FH is 42. I feel like that "get married young" mentality is like for our grandparents and great grand parents even. Girllllll its 2019 and times have changed!! Embrace your engagement and marriage and give the middle finger to those who frown or criticize lol!! Congrats and good luck!

I would say the only place I've heard that sort of attitude is in the South, and it's one of the reasons I'd never want to live there. Living in the Northeast (but not near a city) I feel like it is the exact opposite. You would get looked down on for getting married at 18-20.

I think it definitely depends on where you live. My FH and I will both be 26 at our wedding but it was a good age for us (6+ years together, done with school, well into our careers, etc.). We are actually the first out of our college friends (we live in a city) to get married so I would imagine any of them will be late 20's, early 30's if they decide that's the route they want to go. A lot of my hometown friends got married a lot younger than us and that is totally normal for my small town and worked great for them since they were high school sweethearts.

Let your happiness drown out the negative comments people are making. Some people don't understand that others can be happy for 30+ years without a husband or wife...you probably found joy in your career, or travel, or (imagine this) just didn't want to get married just to be married You're not a "damaged" good! I'm glad you found someone who doesn't buy into those silly ideals and appreciates you for who you are.

Never to old to be a bride!

My mom and dad got married at 18 and 20 and are still married to this day. But they really don't like each other. It's almost a tolerance because in our culture, you don't get divorced. You just stay miserable.

I got married the first time at 25 to my high school sweetheart. Looking back, I never should have. All the signs were there. But what I grew up with was the model of my parents marriage, so I thought that was normal. By my late 30's, I knew that I could not live in the verbally abusive, manipulation that I was in. By that point, I was financially able to stand on my own and I was out of there. It was very hard for my family to understand, but I had to do it for my own sanity.

I married the love of my life last October. I was 44, he was 51. I know now what it means to have a partner, a best friend and a lover all rolled in to one person. I will encourage all of our children to wait until they find that person and never settle. They deserve to feel what we have and I pray every day that they find it.

My grandma got married last year at the age of 84! He is 88. They travel all over and are living their best life. Never too late for happiness!

I’m 29!!! If I’d had gotten married any younger specially 18 I’d be divorced by now lol.

Back in the day people died half our average life span now. That’s why people married so young. They had legitimate reasons. Women were also at risk during pregnancy so the younger the better. Families were also poor and had lots of children. They wanted to marry the women off to be taken care of.


Today it’s purely, SOLEY and 100% VANITY. It’s a vain society, nothing else. It’s the Disney fairytale, the young, beautiful, princess perfect bride we were programmed to want to be. Even though life today doesn’t start until your mid 30s with college taking so long, houses being so expensive and men who aren’t even considering marriage until much later.
Even so the average age for marriage as of 2019 is 35.7 for women and 38 for men. I only know two people who married in their late 20s. As a career woman, 35 was ideal for me, but unfortunately Covid stole that from me.
The only biological issue is children, but today 40-50 are safely having kids. There is a risk no question, but most people are having kids first and then then getting married anyway.
It truly is nothing but vanity.

Also most 18-29 marriages end up in divorce. Like I said, two people that I know married at 25 and 28, both divorced. No one else in their 20s.


The rest got married, 32, 34, 39, 41, 38, 37 and 36. So far so good.

I believe the average is 32-34 depending on the state. I'm 33 but will be 34 when I get married and my FH will be 37. It feels just right to me (though I think he feels a bit late)

View Quoted Comment This 100%! The idea that life stops at 25 is because society has pressured people to believe that only youth has any value. Once you hit 30+ you lose your value as a person according to them.


Little old ladies in nursing homes get married on the news and the aren’t 25 or expecting to raise more kids. The only opinion that matters is how you and your fiancé feel. No one gets to bully you into believing you aren’t good enough.

I got engaged at 26. When we get married I’ll be almost 28. There’s nothing wrong with that. My fiancés parents got engaged in their early 30s. My mom got married the second time in her 30s. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that!

View Quoted Comment The comment about your grandmother just makes me smile 🥺