Tara
Master May 2020

Too old to be a Bride?

Tara, on January 30, 2019 at 7:20 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 29
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I’m in my 30’s and I noticed all across the states except for major metropolitan areas (NYC, LA, DC, ATL, etc) that women here get married fairly young. Before I became engaged I would hear people say that something is wrong with a women if she’s older that 25 or 30 and she has never been married. I’ve even noticed many people brag about getting married at 18-20 because they’ll be married so much longer than others. Why is it looked down upon here to get married in your 30s or older?

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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    I am engaged I am 37.
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  • O
    Dedicated September 2019
    Oregonbride ·
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    I'm 35, FH is 37. And most of my friends were in their 30s when they got married.
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  • S
    Dedicated May 2020
    Sarah ·
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    Interesting! I live in LA and most people I know get married in their late twenties or thirties! In fact, I think most people around here are very skeptical of people in their early twenties marrying because they’re not mature enough. It’s fascinating to learn that some parts of the country have the opposite view Smiley smile
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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    I’ve experienced the opposite. I will be a few months shy of 24 when I get married and am super young for the area I live in. Most of my cousins and people I know in the area don’t get married until their late 20’s or early 30’s!
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  • Misty
    Super October 2019
    Misty ·
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    I'm engaged at 36 and happy I've waited to find the perfect team mate and lived my life as I have. Had I settled earlier on I wouldn't be this fulfilled and happy.
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  • Mary
    Dedicated October 2019
    Mary ·
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    I’m 33 and my FH is 27. Don’t think it’s unusual at all. My two best friends are still single and they are the same age. I feel like it shouldn’t matter your age as long as your happy and living your best life single or married! Age shouldn’t define how you live your life!
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  • Kiki
    Super May 2019
    Kiki ·
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    I think people are waiting longer now. My FH has a tight group of 12 guy friends only two are married and he’ll be the third they’re 29 and I’m 28 none of my girlfriends are married yet my step sister is my age and just got married.
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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
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    You misread my post. I stated “ I noticed all across the states EXCEPT for major metropolitan areas (NYC, LA, DC, ATL, etc)
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  • Jessica
    Savvy November 2019
    Jessica ·
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    I'm 37 and my FH is 40. You are never to old to be a bride.
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  • Swtnss238
    VIP May 2019
    Swtnss238 ·
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    I am 41 and engaged. We have less than 4 months to go. This is my first marraige. I didn't marry by choice. I refussed to marry until i was with someone that I KNEW it would last forever. I was with my childrens father through my wholes 20s and early 30s. So I took some of my 30s and took a break. Have been with FH since I was 37. There is nothing wrong with me. I have standards and I stuck to them.
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  • Marie
    Savvy September 2019
    Marie ·
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    Society spends sooo much time trying to tell us how to be, who to be and what is normal. Life is not a checklist of items to be completed on a deadline. As long as you are happy and know this is the right choice, ignore the expectations of a world that doesnt value individual choice.
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  • Nina
    Devoted June 2019
    Nina ·
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    Fiance and I will both be 24 by the time we marry. We've been together 5 years and knew since day 1 we had found our soul mate but wanted to graduate college and start our careers before tying the knot. Now that we have been out of school for almost 2 years I feel more comfortable financially getting married.
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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    Society has change and I don’t think people get married later than they used to. I’m on my late 20s and fiancé is on early 30s and we have being together since I was 19 and now is the time to get married. I can’t picture doing this at 20 and I’m one of the first one in my group of friends to get married and most of them have long relationships.
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  • Mrs. Sarantos
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. Sarantos ·
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    I don’t understand either why some girls brag about getting married super young. Everyone experiences life differently. I was engaged at 21 and it was a huge mistake and luckily I didn’t go through with it. 30s is not old anyway, when I read your title I was expecting something totally different! And a lot of ppl get married in their 40s or 50s or even into retirement age.
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  • Jessica
    Devoted July 2022
    Jessica ·
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    Love is love no matter how old you are. Someone can be 18 getting married while someone else can get married when there 70. Their is no different in loving someone and marrying them longer then anyone else.
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  • Future Mrs. Danger
    Expert November 2019
    Future Mrs. Danger ·
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    Got married at 22 and after 13 yrs and 2 kids it didnt work out. Today I'm 40 and have found the love of my life.
    I always say, you can either wait to get married in your 30's or you can get married twice. Lol. Dont stress it.
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  • Melissa
    Dedicated May 2018
    Melissa ·
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    I was 34 when I got married and my husband was 39
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  • Jennifer
    VIP September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I’m 40, FH proposed- after almost 7yrs- on my 40th Birthday. He is 52. When we get married I’ll be 42 and he’ll be 54.
    So our 10yrs of being together, 1yr Wedding Anniversary and him turning 55 all will be 2021!!! Wow! ❤️😳😁❤️
    I was 18 when I met my ex, he was 45. We have a gorgeous 21yo son- who I’d not trade for the world, but I wish id been older.
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  • S
    Dedicated October 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    I believe you shouldn't get married til you are at least late 20s. I got married the first time at 26. I had no idea who I was. It wasn't until I was in my early 30s that I knew who I was and what I wanted. So I divorced and started to live my true self. Now at 41 I'm getting married again and couldn't be happier. I'm at an age where I could care less what others think of my choices. It's my book and I'm writing it, not you or anyone else. I saw a quote that everyone asks what do you do for a living, who are you with etc...but they never ask are you happy? That's where I am now. It's all about the happiness.

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  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
    Kristin ·
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    With your statement of "except for major metropolitan areas", I think there are just different expectations for women. *These are generalizations and not meant to offend or insinuate there are not exceptions* Having lived in down town Chicago, the burbs, and the country between IL and WI, life just moves a little different. Most people I know in the city and burbs are in their late 20's and early 30's as well when they get married, but people I know that grew up in more rural areas married right out of high school or college, those that I've spoken to in depth with don't think much of it but admit it has a lot to do with 'monkey see, monkey do"...it's what they know. We all find our way in our own time, I'll be 30 and FH will be 32 when we say "I do" in November and looking back, I couldn't imagine getting married in my early 20's and so happy I didn't. The whole baby thing won't work out quite how I always planned it to for all those years, but other than that 1 tiny alteration in timelines, I wouldn't have it any other way Smiley winking

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