Too many +1s!!!

Significant others are not plus ones. Anyone in a relationship whether dating, engaged, or married should both be invited no matter what. If you don’t have room you need to cut your guest list down and not invite the entire couple.

Yes it’s rude to invite someone and not their husband. I would cut back your list until you can invite everyone’s SO.

Definitely rude to invite someone but not their SO (boyfriends/girlfriends, engaged couples, married couples). You risk damaging relationships with this strategy. Cut back your list.

Thank you guys! I will cut back my list!

As others said significant others aren’t +1. How we cut back was that we did not extend +1 to single relatives, but couples were invited as a pair.

We did it where if you weren’t dating by the time we got engaged, you’re not getting a +1. If you have a long term bf/gf, fiancé, or married, they will be invited as well. Try to cut down on the guest list a bit

As others mentioned, you definitely have to invite guest's spouses or serious bf/gfs. But if someone is truly single - not in any relationship at all you don't need to give them a plus one.

Good ways to cut your guest list is to not invite co-workers and limit how many friends you invite. Family will always be family, but friendships could fade out and relationships with co-workers could end if one of you leaves the job.

Plus ones are for single people. Anyone married or in a relationship is considered a social unit and should be invited together.

Yes, it is rude to invite a guest and not their spouse, even if you don't know their spouse. If you don't have room to invite all the couples together, you need to cut down your list.

We didn't give plus ones, we just invited couples (married, engaged, or just dating). Are you giving single people plus ones? I'd cut entire couples rather than just someone's husband.

A spouse isn’t a plus one. Married couples and those in relationships should be invited together. It would be incredibly rude to exclude them and I would plan for those guests to decline your invitation if you don’t invite their significant others. Would you want to attend a wedding without your FS? Plus ones are for single guests and are optional.

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I'm glad you decided to cut back and invite SOs together!

I just didn’t give anyone a plus 1 unless i knew they were in a serious relationship. It’s to costly to have everyone bring plus 1

I think you should always invite spouses, but other than that i would reserve a number a seats for each household. This is what i did so you don’t get a bunch of extra people and stay in budget!

Thank you all for your kind critiques! I really appreciate it. I cut back on the +1s for my single friends and found a few couples I can go without.

I have asked for no children except family as well, but I would not split up a couple. If you can not accommodate them, then just don’t invite them.

For my cousins in college with new boyfriends they didn’t get plus ones. And when my cousin got married when I was in college and I had a bf I didn’t get a plus one. Honestly happy it was that way because now I don’t look back on that day and remember a random ex haha

We have only done one go through a single guest list draft and even without plus ones we are over our guest max for the budget. 95% of our guests live out of state so we are anticipating a lot of no's but our guest list will probably grow before we send out save the dates. If possible I wouldn't give plus ones to single guests and if that doesn't help then cut down your guest list.