Too late to send a gift? Feeling guilty

That would be weird. If I got a wedding gift 3 years later, I would be like WTF?

I think it would be really weird to send a gift now. iMO lesson learned, remember the guilt you feel the next wedding you are invited to and not sure what type of gift you should give.

Definitely send a gift. no question about it. especially since it's bothering you. but make sure you have their current address!

maybe make it a store wedding gift card with a card that apologizes for being so late but you wish them the best.

Three years, I think it's best to just let it go. I'm sure the couple has long forgotten any slight grievances or faux pas from their wedding. Like Jillian said, lesson learned and now you know better next time.

I would either let it go, and chalk it up to a lesson learned. I would be so weirded out if I got a gift that much later.

If you really feel you should do something, do as christinekyle said, and send them a thinking of you small gift.

I think you should just chalk this up as a lesson learned. You don't speak anymore, they aren't going to your wedding, and its been 3 years. I wouldn't send anything.

Nah...just leave it. Lesson learned. And maybe spend a bit more if you get invited to a baby shower to help alleviate your guilt.

Thanks ladies!

I sometimes wonder if she's posted about me on these forums a few years back. How tacky of me!

Lesson extremely learned.

I wouldn't it would be extremely weird.

Weird to do it 3 years later imo

Yeah I'd probably let that one go. Sending one now might remind her of the lack of one then or even put it in her face if she didn't notice. It would probably be really awkward and put her in a position of calling to say thanks and both of you having an uncomfortable conversation about it. Yeah, i think it would be weird to give her one all this time later....for both of you.

It's been too long. The bride and groom probably don't remember. If it is that serious to you, you could send it and say you found it when you were digging through your closet and thought you had already given it to them HAHA.

I know how you feel! I gave my stepsister an empty card at her wedding in 2012! I didn't have any money and FH was mad at me at the time, so I was too scared to ask him for some. I have been feeling so guilty ever since! At least she's family, so I can probably get away with giving her a gift when she comes to visit for my wedding, but I still feel like shit. Plus, she asked if she can help plan my wedding, so I don't think she's holding much of a grudge. lol

OR.... if your conscious has the best of you- send one anonymously!

Hate to break up the solid votes for 'weird', but I had a GM buy us a gift years after the wedding, and it really meant a lot to me that he remembered.

@Zoe, you're speaking to my heart :-)

@BringOnMay - I like the anonymous idea. I may have to take that one. Thanks!

I definitely think at least a card would have been appropriate. However, now, it would just be weird to send a gift years later. Maybe just send a nice "thinking of you" gift or rekindle the relationship by inviting them out to dinner your treat.