Too late to cancel??? One month away

You will always have people that can't make the date, especially in the military. Their plans change constantly. I wouldn't change it and just press forward. You'll change the date.. and then the military plans will change and they still won't be able to make it. It's not worth the stress of trying to rearrange everything and possibly lose lots of money.

You can't please everyone.

I have many friends/family who are in the military as well, their plans constantly change and you honestly can't plan around them. What was the other conflict you were going to change the date for? Maybe that is what he is really more upset up than his friends not being able to come?

Also, if you have people coming in from out of town they have already asked off work/booked travel plans - and that could make people angry as well.

Yikes. I'm very sorry to hear this. How many people are we talking about, a lot? I wouldn't cancel a wedding just on the fact that friends wouldn't be able to show. What about having a small second reception for just his military friends or anyone else who can’t make the date? I think you two might need to sit down and figure out priority’s then worrying about who’s who is going to make it to your wedding - you’re always going to have people who can’t make it or rsvp’d yes and not show up.

Wowwww. it's about you and your fiance. Isn't it? Whoever can't make it, oh well...

Mannn...I agree with above, it's your day..... they can't make it oooohhhhh well!!

With the military you will never know. Even if you rescheduled right now, the new date might initially work until something comes up with the military again. In the end it is about you and your FH.

Everyone above me is saying exactly what I would say. It's near impossible to plan around the military.

Is he also in the military? The reason I ask is because if he is he should more than understand that you can't count on them being there. I've been in the military for a very long time now and I can tell you that I have friends who are suddenly out of town right now due to world issues. Two weeks ago we could have been planning a BBQ, today? not so much.

I agree with Erin... only person that he should care is there, IS YOU. maybe he's having cold feet and is finding something else to blame

I totally understand. right now I'm addressing an invitation to a base in Kuwait! You and i both know that someone important (his buddies) will always be missing. The big thing I see that discouraging you is his attitude about the missing people. you need to have a sit down and explain that his attitude is distressing to you, and you're no longer looking forward to it if he isn't going to enjoy the day with you. ask him straight up if he'd like to cancel. he'll either shut up and change his attitude or he'll join your team and help hash out another solution.

If it would really make FH happy, do it. You do NOT want to be hearing, for the rest of your life, "And none of my friends were at the wedding....". If you switch the date and let *him* pick the new one, then it's on him. As one who's been hearing about what DH didn't like about our wedding for 15 years (and counting) I think it would be worth every penny!

I would have a huge issue if H had wanted to postpone the wedding because some of his friends couldn't make it. Pretty much the only people we would have even considered moving the wedding for would be our parents.