Too late for Save the Dates?

It is later than STDs typically go out, but if you feel it would be beneficial to your guests, you can still send them.

At this point skip them. Send the invites out mid-June to early-july.

I think it's a little too late to send STDs - maybe just send your invites out a few weeks earlier than you originally planned.

I would do simple ones asap.

We're getting married September 22nd, and our STDs are going out this week. I'm a bit behind but still thought it was worth doing, especially since 99% of our guests are traveling from out of state.

I just sent mine out for October, and they were early. we received my cousins for September last week. I received another for the week before us in January.

I say if you want to do it, go for it!

It sounds like you’re very prepared! I wouldn’t be concerned at all. You’ve already notified those who absolutely needed it and took care of the hotel situation. I say if you feel anxious about it just send out the invitations a bit earlier than you planned, or just direct anyone who asks to your wedding website.

I haven’t ever really seen any STDs with hotel info and stuff like that included since the actual invitation has everything they will need to plan properly. I agree you should just send the invites out a little early and that should help end the questioning. No point in wasting money on STDs when they will have the info when they get the invitations. The STDs should be just that, a heads up that they may need to be prepared to save a date in the future and will get more info soon, but since you already contacted everyone who needs more of a heads up you are fine.

Hmm I'll be sending Save the Dates out next week ..our wedding is in October. But what were you going to include on your Save the Dates that would put them at ease? Maybe consider electronic Save the Dates to save time and money..and then the invitations will follow.

Those items are generally on the STD anyways. If your website is done you can point people who are asking to your site or put the info in a simple email or text you can copy and send out if people really need it right now.

Yeah I would have put the website info on the save the dates, is all... But I think that I'm in agreement that the people who have the farthest to travel have all been notified, so I'll just handle any questions on a case by case basis. My website is like... 97% done, I'm just working out details on the welcome party info, etc. but other than that the hotel info and everything is there.

My date is 9/9/18 and I will be sending my Save the Dates the first week of May. I was originally going to send to the out of towners, but I had people WHO WERE IN THE WEDDING asking me what day it was LOL so now everyone's getting one. My invitations will probably be sent out end of June or mid July.

So I had decided to stick with my original plan and not send them. Then this morning my MOH texted me (out of the blue, we hadn't talked about this) and said "maybe a quick STD is in order..." Sigh. I'm the worst at decisions.

Can you send out a mass text or email with your hotel block information, or just directing people to the website?

You could just send out invites sooner if people are asking questions. I never really got the whole save the date thing. It seems like just an extra invitation and a waste of money. We are getting married in Oct 2018 and sent out invites in February since it's a DW so people have time to plan.

So an update on this. I had, after this discussion, thought to stick to the plan and NOT do save the dates and just send out invites a tad early, like end of May instead of mid-June. Which I still feel is pretty damn early. But the last few days I've been getting a flurry of texts and emails and my MOH was like "dude - you really need to just do it. There are random people in our family who need to know - people take summer vacations you know!"

So. Here I am. Just under 5 months away. Waiting for save the dates to arrive (that I ordered yesterday) to send out next week.

I'm not sending them to EVERYONE, but still. I feel like the whole save-the-date phenomenon has really ruined normal wedding timelines. I mean people just can't wait for a regular invitation anymore? Is 3 1/2 months' notice really not enough? I guess not.

View Quoted Comment I feel the same way. I'm going to send out save the dates for a select few that I know will come, but invites will be sent end of April for end of August Wedding. I'm not doing earlier than that. My wedding is six hours away for everyone except my mom's best friend and my dad, the only two people who will actually fly, everyone else is driving so I think 3 months time is good enough for the rsvp deadline of end of July. I plan on calling those the first week in August right before my count is due.

Yeah I mean the people I know that are flying have already booked their flights. *shrug* But my family is insane and everyone wants to know hotel info, etc. so whatever. (The STD will give our website info which has all hotel information, etc) I did a 50% zazzle yesterday and only spent like $20 so it's not terrible, just a little annoying because it was one thing I was going to just cut out as being unnecessary.

I'd say just send invites a little earlier and skip save the dates. You don't usually put anything more than the date and what city it is in on those anyway.

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Well I already ordered them as of yesterday so now I'm committed. I agree in principle though. But since everyone seems to be freaking out about being able to book a hotel room ASAP, etc. and I getting sick of answering everyone's questions, I am just giving in and doing it. I don't really get it, since I've spoken to most if not all of the people that would be invited and my date is widely known by now. But ok. If it makes my people happy then what's another $20 and some stamps?