Too competitive (rant and curiosity)

I have had all of these same thoughts recently, based on posts here. And I also don't get it. I am glad I haven't experienced this type of thing in real life. I hope it's not actually as common as the posts make it appear.

I see that on these forums all the time.

i think it's because people:

1. want to feel original when in reality weddings these days are not very original anymore haha people have similar tastes and desires and inspo so it may come out similar in ways

2. people just want to feel like it's their time vs sharing it with others it kind of reduces their own spotlight

3. feel insecure about any possible comparisons being made. my husband and his best friend got engaged around same time and come time for wedding planning, his best friend booked a date first and when it was our turn he was so hellbent on us not getting married BEFORE him. we were like what does it matter? we don't even have the same guests at all aha we have like 2 mutual guests out of the 200 something guests we each had.

I think to be fair, there's often a lot of history with some of these old friends or family members, and it's not really about the colour scheme, the dress or whatever at all. It's usually a long-standing pattern of behaviour where they somehow brush off other people's milestones, chip away at your happiness, or ruin a special moment somehow, and it's never been an important enough event to crack until something like a wedding.

I think in cases where someone just... seems really upset about something which is in broad picture view, quite inconsequential, the best question to ask is often, 'what are you REALLY upset about?'

Yes! And my biggest annoyance is when friendships fall apart because people weren't "doing their duty" as a MB, MOH, GM, whatever. Like is your friendship really only about this one day?! lol

My brother, sister, and I will all have our weddings in the next 12 months. In reality, we are 7 years apart. My parents were NOT expecting this. I was engaged in August of 2019 and originally supposed to have a June 2020 wedding and you all know what happened there. My little sister got engaged in September of 2020 and my brother in December of 2020. We all had legal ceremonies already for various reasons, but none of us are jealous or petty about the fact that anyone's thunder is being stolen. Oddly enough, the weddings are still going in "age order", just a LOT closer together than anyone would have thought.

((SLOW CLAP))

I think women and men have become socialized that they need to feel special. To hell with anyone else's happiness. Better not be pregnant or get engaged or have any other life even that may take away their thunder.

Hopefully it's the minority of the people out there.