Tomorrow Would Have Been Our Wedding Day

I'm so sorry FutureSWJ! I feel like a lot of people are struggling with how to best support couples with postponed plans right now! They might not be reaching out because they don't want to remind you of the original date, or they might be dealing with other stressors right now. Can you reach out to your sister and tell her you need some extra love and support, especially this weekend?

I'm glad that you have plans tomorrow for a fun day together!

View Quoted Comment Thanks Lynnie. Unfortunately, I don't have that type of relationship with my sister. When I last told my family how I feel, they told me that my grief is not normal and I should seek counseling. They questioned whether I really love my fiancé because I cared too much about our wedding being cancelled. They are fed up with hearing about our wedding.

I’m sorry you’re not getting the support you need from your family ☹️. It sounds like they really don’t understand how hard and stressful this has been on everyone planning weddings this year, and even worse they don’t even care to try to understand how you’re feeling. I’m glad you have plans to hopefully take your mind off of it tomorrow. Try to have a great weekend and take care of yourselves. You don’t have to feel better about postponing just because your family is sick of hearing about it, and you don’t need counseling unless you think it would help you work through your feelings. Give yourself the grace you need.

Aw I’m sorry to hear that they’re not really saying anything. That sucks. Sometimes people aren’t as excited for us as we would have hoped they’d be.
Hope you and your FH have a good day

I am so sorry to hear that you postponed glad your having a day to yourself

Our day was also supposed to be tomorrow but we are a go for August 2, it’s a little sad thinking of the excitement this whole week should have brought but my FH and I are going to go out to dinner and are preparing for our big day in a month!

I'm sorry your family is being so unsupportive. However I imagine many will reach out to you on the day (probably a simple text, just to let you know they are thinking of you). I wouldn't get too upset about the lack of communication from your family until after the day has passed.

I agree not everyone knows how to handle these things. I also think people are in general overwhelmed with their own struggles during the pandemic. No one's having a good time during this.

My original date was last weekend. Most family didn't reach out and only half of the bridal party did. Lol my Dad forgot completely about it until I called him the next day to wish him a Happy Father's day. A couple of friends did send love and cookies; I found good support in my FMIL. We had a good cry on the phone wishing we were at the salon getting prepped for the day. I tried to focus on the support I did get instead of dwell on the people that forgot, but it's not easy when your in the middle of it.

There's been a lot of relief since the date has past. I also unfollowed bridal accounts on social media so I'm not reminded about it as often.

Keep in mind that our weddings might be on OUR minds often, but it’s not something that everyone else is thinking about. When you informed them of the postponement, my guess is that they expressed sentiments at that time. So, expecting it again on your original wedding date might not happen (and that’s ok). Plus, you mentioned getting away to have a nice day at the beach with your FH. So I’m certain that you don’t want the day to turn into a sad pity party, with back to back condolence-style calls. That’s no fun! So, Instead, enjoy the day happily hanging with your FH and sharing the special day together.