Savvy October 2020


Kayla, on August 7, 2019 at 4:42 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 31
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So my fh and I are paying for the wedding our parents are not. I have looked up who should do the toast and nothing is really the same on anything I look up but the best man and maid of honor. So who is doing toast at your reception?


  • Lisa
    Dedicated September 2019
    Lisa ·

    We are also paying for our own wedding. The BM and MOH are the only two doing speeches.

  • Kim
    Super September 2019
    Kim ·

    We are paying for our wedding as well and the BM and MOH are the only people we are expecting a speech from.

  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    We’re giving a speech to thank everyone for coming.
  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·

    We don't have anyone doing speeches, but there's a small chance we do a quick thank you toast. It's totally up to what you want to do, and what the people you might want to speak would be comfortable with.

  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·

    We opted for no toasts. But then his aunt insisted on doing a toast that was unplanned. His sister said we we would love it. It was great. She told some hilarious stories that I hadn't heard and everyone had a good time. I was actually a little disappointed that no one in my family stood up to say anything after his family did but maybe that's a good thing. My mom would have just talked about herself and my dad never has anything to say lol

  • Amanda
    Super June 2020
    Amanda ·

    We are sharing the wedding expenses between both of our parents and ourselves. We will have our parents speak at the rehearsal dinner, our officiant (friend of ours) do the blessing at the reception, BM and MOH make speeches at wedding and FH make a quick toast to our marriage prior to opening the dance floor.

  • Arielle
    Expert May 2020
    Arielle ·

    We are also paying for our wedding. The BM and MOH are giving the speeches.

  • Gen
    Master June 2019
    Gen ·
    My mom made the first toast. Then best man, then MOH, then husband and I made a 30 second toast just thanking people for coming!
  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
    The hosts should do a “thank you for coming” type “toast” — BM&MOH can do celebratory toast/speeches, but that’s different than the “thank you” — since you guys are hosting the event, that should be done by you.

    At our wedding, we were the only ones who spoke — we skipped moh&bm toasts, and simply got up to tell our guests how much we appreciated them!
  • Kimberly
    Devoted October 2019
    Kimberly ·
    We are also paying for our wedding. We are only having BM and MOH give a speech. I told FH if someone feels like they want to say a few words they can do it at the rehearsal dinner.
  • Florida Marlins
    Devoted October 2017
    Florida Marlins ·

    We had my brother and Best Man give a toast along with my former boss (now friend) as my attendants were my two college age sons. They told me they would rather not speak, lol! We were both 52 so we paid for it ourselves, obviously.

  • Nora
    Expert July 2019
    Nora ·
    MOH, best man, and FOG (this is husband’s only family) all made toasts at our wedding! Then my parents did the blessing before the meal and we did a little thank you after the cake cutting. You can do whatever you’d like of course!
  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra Online ·
    We had our MOH/BM toasts,
    My dad gave a thank you sort of toast. My brother wanted to give a small speech later in the night and we let him.
    Hubs gave a thank you toast at the rehearsal dinner.
  • IvyAndKris
    Rockstar October 2019
    IvyAndKris ·

    We are paying for our own wedding as well. We plan to say a quick thank you to everyone, especially since her sister and our close friend are also celebrating their birthdays on the same day as our reception. Our sons will be our best men but neither are super comfortable giving speeches so I think she might ask one of her sisters. Otherwise we'll just say thank you and skip the rest.

  • Sara
    Devoted April 2020
    Sara ·
    We are giving our moh and best man the option, if they would like to say something then they can if not that’s fine too. But we will give a short thank you speech together at the reception.
  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
    We had a groomsman and maid of honor do it. But our father of groom also spoke and so did my husband and I briefly as a thanks
  • A
    Devoted August 2019
    Amanda ·
    We are paying for the wedding mostly on our own. My man of honor and his best man are making speeches. Also my FH and my dad. It was really important to me mom that my dad speak... Idk. I would allow whoever you too speak. As you can see from the different answers there aren't a lot of set rules anymore
  • M
    Devoted October 2019
    Melodie ·

    You get to choose. Traditionally, the best man maid of honor, and father of the bride would make a toast. But, again, you get to choose who you'd like to ask to make a toast. No right or wrong answer.

  • Nemo
    VIP August 2018
    Nemo ·

    MOH x2, BM, and my dad (he paid for our reception and photographer) gave a speech. My FIL gave a speech at the rehearsal dinner (in-laws paid for it and paid for other things as well). However, this is pretty common in my circle. I think that every wedding I've ever been to has had the host of the reception (whoever that may be, but like I said, in my circle it is usually a parent of the bride), the MOH, and the BM give a speech.

  • Kellie
    Super October 2019
    Kellie ·

    My maid of honor, matron of honor, his best man, and our parents.

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