So my fh and I are paying for the wedding our parents are not. I have looked up who should do the toast and nothing is really the same on anything I look up but the best man and maid of honor. So who is doing toast at your reception?
We don't have anyone doing speeches, but there's a small chance we do a quick thank you toast. It's totally up to what you want to do, and what the people you might want to speak would be comfortable with.
We opted for no toasts. But then his aunt insisted on doing a toast that was unplanned. His sister said we we would love it. It was great. She told some hilarious stories that I hadn't heard and everyone had a good time. I was actually a little disappointed that no one in my family stood up to say anything after his family did but maybe that's a good thing. My mom would have just talked about herself and my dad never has anything to say lol
We are sharing the wedding expenses between both of our parents and ourselves. We will have our parents speak at the rehearsal dinner, our officiant (friend of ours) do the blessing at the reception, BM and MOH make speeches at wedding and FH make a quick toast to our marriage prior to opening the dance floor.
The hosts should do a “thank you for coming” type “toast” — BM&MOH can do celebratory toast/speeches, but that’s different than the “thank you” — since you guys are hosting the event, that should be done by you.
At our wedding, we were the only ones who spoke — we skipped moh&bm toasts, and simply got up to tell our guests how much we appreciated them!
We had my brother and Best Man give a toast along with my former boss (now friend) as my attendants were my two college age sons. They told me they would rather not speak, lol! We were both 52 so we paid for it ourselves, obviously.
MOH, best man, and FOG (this is husband’s only family) all made toasts at our wedding! Then my parents did the blessing before the meal and we did a little thank you after the cake cutting. You can do whatever you’d like of course!
We are paying for our own wedding as well. We plan to say a quick thank you to everyone, especially since her sister and our close friend are also celebrating their birthdays on the same day as our reception. Our sons will be our best men but neither are super comfortable giving speeches so I think she might ask one of her sisters. Otherwise we'll just say thank you and skip the rest.
We are paying for the wedding mostly on our own. My man of honor and his best man are making speeches. Also my FH and my dad. It was really important to me mom that my dad speak... Idk. I would allow whoever you too speak. As you can see from the different answers there aren't a lot of set rules anymore
MOH x2, BM, and my dad (he paid for our reception and photographer) gave a speech. My FIL gave a speech at the rehearsal dinner (in-laws paid for it and paid for other things as well). However, this is pretty common in my circle. I think that every wedding I've ever been to has had the host of the reception (whoever that may be, but like I said, in my circle it is usually a parent of the bride), the MOH, and the BM give a speech.