To wed or not to wed

This isn’t exactly related to the question at hand, but it is something to consider. My parents went to Mexico for their 25th anniversary in 2018 and my dad became ill. The healthcare system is very poor and I would be afraid of getting ill while I was there and ending up in the hospital. My father is not the only one who had something like this happen that I know, so I would be very weary about going. Obviously I don’t know how long you or your guests will be there, but it’s something to consider when deciding.

View Quoted Comment Which part of Mexico did your parents travel to? I think that plays a huge part in it. I will be staying in a private villa ten minutes outside Cancun. Way different than Tijuana.

View Quoted Comment My dad’s trip was to Playa del Carmen, but he was transferred to Cancun and the other trip was to Cancun.

I live in Mexico and I feel safer here than I would in the states. I have to fly to Arizona, California and Texas for a couple documents and things before our wedding in Puerto Vallarta in October. And I’m definitely more nervous visiting there than living here. Our hospital levels aren’t high or in critical zones. But if your mom hasn’t sent in her passport application it’s probably unlikely for her to get it in time. I’m sorry you are dealing with this. I am too.

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I live in Mexico but am American. I just had surgery in a hospital in Jalisco and it was the nicest hospital I’ve ever been to with amazing doctors. I’m sorry for your dads experience but there are MANY incredible hospitals with great doctors in Mexico.

View Quoted Comment According to data about hot spots around the world, the US is worst off than Mexico. I just wish my mom made an educated decision instead of a fearful/emotional one. I’m going to do my best to enjoy my day with the loved ones that are there and not dwell on those that aren’t. Even if that includes my
Mother whom I love dearly. I wish you luck on your big day and thank you for contributing good energy towards mine. Good luck with everything and stay safe

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Hopefully she’ll come around. I’m expecting some people to not make if from the states to my wedding but it’ll be cause it’s last minute (we just decided to get married and gave our guests two months notice) 😂... or people who are legitimately quarantining still.

View Quoted Comment My dad almost died wading through red tape during an emergency. I’m sure there are good places, but knowing multiple people that have had problems there with medical issues as well as how his doctor at home says they refuse to communicate with him regarding the medical procedures done, coupled with the fact that there is a pandemic right now, I think it’s a factor that should be considered.


Yes, that’s all personal experience, but if the consulate hadn’t gotten involved with the public hospital that almost killed him, I wouldn’t have a father to walk me down the aisle (not that he can really walk because he’s had a lot of issues with his amputation, but you get the sense). I would never dream of going to Mexico because I have preexisting conditions after what happened (not just to my dad but to others).
The OP mentioned having an immunodeficiency during a pandemic. In a strange country, Mexico or not, it could result in some serious problems related to their healthcare system. So, accessibility should be considered, is my point.

View Quoted Comment My guests have known my wedding is in Mexico for over a year because we postponed last year. This is why I get so frustrated with those who still haven’t gotten their passports, my mother included.


You just decided to get married during a pandemic and invite guests from outside the country?!’ Your brave and I LOVE it! Love waits for no man and it cannot be canceled

View Quoted Comment I called the five most important people to me and they all said they would come. I’m positive a lot of my family won’t be able to make it but I always wanted a small wedding. And in Mexico for Mexicans that isn’t normally possible 😂

View Quoted Comment I’m very sorry for your situation. For future reference, don’t go to a public hospital in Mexico. The private hospitals are relatively inexpensive compared to the states and ive only ever had good experiences.

View Quoted Comment He originally went to a private hospital, but they were not capable of treating him. He was transported via ambulance which required him to be “temporarily” admitted to a public hospital. He had no choice in the matter. When he finally got transported to another private hospital, they did the surgery and were told by the doctor who did it that the equipment in most hospitals in Mexico is inadequate for most of the surgeries he performs. We were well aware not to go to a public hospital, but the laws made not ending up there impossible. My whole point is to be careful. This happened before COVID and if she is more susceptible then perhaps going to Mexico for a wedding right now is not the best idea. If they cannot treat her or don’t have the equipment then was it really worth it? It’s just a consideration, and not just for Mexico. Anywhere. I have a friend from the Navy that had a similar experience in Italy and another in Japan (I believe). As for the expenses of the hospitals, we had to pay something like $50,000 (altogether) up front, but here in the US they have payment plans and other things to aid you. Ultimately we will end up paying about $1,000 (without insurance) for my dad’s hospital stay here (over a month) and his follow ups. So, perhaps in your case it was less, but it is not in his case nor had it been for other issues people I know.

View Quoted Comment It’s almost everything is paid for and you feel comfortable with it, go for it! You only live once, and like you said you don’t know when another opportunity like this will happen. If your mother doesn’t feel comfortable attending your wedding then unfortunately there’s not much you can do about that. The only advice I could give to you is to just respect her decision on whatever choice she makes. You can still do Zoom with her on your wedding day too. That way she will be there with you.