To change the wedding date or not?

View Quoted Comment Best wishes with whatever you decide! Fingers crossed that a 4th postponement is the winner!🥳

View Quoted Comment I honestly probably would not be able to go through with the wedding if either my brother or sister can’t make it. If I reschedule I have a better chance of my sister being able to make it and I will be happy with that. Plus if the wedding is later in 2021 maybe there will be a better chance of a vaccine for the corona virus. Since after my brother comes home from deployment he can’t go more than 50 miles from base until Corona Virus cases are low. Which is why I said I would be happy just having my sister at the wedding.

I wouldn't change the date, if they couldnt come, they couldn't come. It's already a pain in the butt to just book everything, having to reschedule and poasibly rebook your vendors is just gonna push more work onto you.

View Quoted Comment The thing is we only have the venue booked and they never fill up. The venue we are using their busiest time is around the holidays. Plus they have their own in-house vendor service. Like our photographer is a good friend of mine and she is like just tell me when and I will be their. My uncle who is a hair dresser will be doing my hair and my cousin who is a chef will be making the wedding cake. Since pretty much everyone who is involved vendor wise is family or friends they already said they don’t mind the wedding date changing. I just know I will be happy on my wedding day even if just my sister will be the only one out of her and my brother who can make the wedding. Plus my sisters first child my niece is the flower girl.

View Quoted Comment Yes, but the issue is expressing this to fiance and communication.


I recommend writing each pro and con out. I recommend approaching it at a good time and telling him all of your feelings about how important family is to you. Reassure him you still want to get married etc and lay out everything.
Listen to his side of it too. Why is he so opposed to changing the date? I can't answer for him but I am sure he has his side
It's more of a relationship building issue than anything. If you both talk about your feelings and work out a mutual compromise you are both happy with, it will make you stronger.
I am sure this isn't the first disagreement you run into or the last. My husband and I have disagreements all the time. It sucks to disagree but I rather not have the "yes dear" either.

I'm sorry! That's a really tough call, but I think it would best to postpone again. Congrats to your sister!