To cancel or not to cancel

Mine’s in May as well. Does DC not have the 150 person max indoor and outdoor rule? That’s what we have in NJ and I thought we were pretty strict here. I am going to see how things are in January/February and go from there I don’t really want to make a decision now because things are still changing almost every day

View Quoted Comment We currently have a 50 outdoor and 25 indoor maximum rule so I’m thinking even if things do get better I still won’t be able to have everyone. And we really don’t want to postpone our wedding any longer

You can have a small ceremony with both your parents then postpone until later in the year. Just explain to them the risks and limitations I know they will understand.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. We personally waited until about 3 months out to make a final decision.

Have you considered doing a small elopement/ceremony, possibly somewhere other than the courthouse, that includes your parents?

We did a 35-person ceremony & dinner, with the intention to have a more traditional celebration with our original guest list in 2022, but I don't think that's going to happen.

Part of me wishes we did something with just our parents/siblings -- would've been cheaper, safer (though no one got sick), and we would've still gotten beautiful pictures.

We didn't want to postpone for a ton of reasons, so I totally get the predicament. I don't think there's a perfect answer for any of these scenarios, you just have to do what feels best to you.

Im getting married in the DMV and we decided to cancel and just have a tiny ceremony with 3 guests.

I would start paving the road on the possibility of having to cancel. Have your plan set up for a bigger reception for a year later.

I would wait it out a little..be prepared for a backup plane though. I’m getting married in May 15th regardless of what is going on. We postponed our wedding in June this year, so waiting another year is not an option for us.


With all the news of the vaccine coming end of December or January there may be a much better chance then what the media is telling us right now. Keep in mind a lot can change in 6 months.

Why can’t your parents and his go to the courthouse or be the only “guests” to watch and have a small ceremony that way?

Well may is still a little while from now and anything can happen. I wouldn't cancel or make a decision now, that's 6 months away. I'm in Maryland and my big wedding is in March, I won't be making a decision until January