To bridesmaid or to not

I would only pick someone I wanted to pick, not to make people happy. They’ll be at every event, helping organise stuff, probably there when you’re getting ready etc. I would keep it a circle of your best friends that you’re really comfortable with.

Nope! Don’t pick a bridesmaid “just because”.

No. Her boyfriend being a groomsman has nothing to do with her.

It's YOUR wedding. You should only have who you want next to you on your special day!

I would never pick someone's wife or girlfriend if I were not on the very best terms already with them, and would have chosen them anyways. I actually might avoid asking someone ( I did) when Groom choose her husband, first. It is almost always a PITA to have a couple both in the wedding party. Do seat all of your Attendants with their SO, at a special table or spread out. You mention having a farmer's table. I have never heard that - what do you mean? ( I am a farmer. Farmer's table at a wedding? Clueless.)

View Quoted Comment So instead of like tables having table 9 or 1 or 16
A farmer table is one or two long table with people facing each other and it’s more about coordinating who sits next to whom then playing favorites with table numbers and the couple sits at the head of the table that is place
Horizontally to make a T-shape pattern

Pick who YOU want as YOUR bridesmaid. Your fiance has no say in who is on your side. Besides, what if that pair breaks up? Then you're stuck with a girl you have no relationship with as a bridesmaid on one of the biggest days of your life.

View Quoted Comment EXACTLY! If she’s not a close friend to you or your FH, then she does not need a role in your wedding party whatsoever.
Now my FH asked one of my bridesmaid’s husband to be a GM, but when they met they hit it off and are really good friends now in their own right.

NO!!!

Your bridesmaids should be the people that you are closest to in life. Your "nearest and dearest" as the saying goes. You should never ask someone to be a bridesmaid out of guilt, obligation, or to keep the peace. This is your wedding! You'll presumably only do this once. Have the wedding you want, with the bridesmaids who you are closest too (best friends/siblings/cousins).

Anyone who starts drama due to not being a bridesmaid for the sake of their man being a groomsmen is immature and that shouldn't happen on your special day Don't pick a bridesmaid for any other reason other then you want them to be that role for you.

Never choose someone as an attendant out of obligation. Only pick those closest to you who are most supportive.

Its up to you! None of my bridesmaids boyfriends/husbands are in our wedding. I chose my bridesmaids and my future hubs chose his groomsmen. The significant other is invited to the wedding, but other than that, if there is drama because of that then that's just immature! Don't let someone start problems on your day!