To bridesmaid or to not

Would definitely never pick someone I didn’t want whether it starts drama or not.

Bridesmaids should be your closest friends/family.

I would stick to my convictions. Don’t be obligated to make someone your bridesmaids if you don’t have that kind of relationship with them

We chose not to have wedding party all together!

But, your BMs should be those that are closest to you.
However, if you’re having a head table, allow the wedding party’s significant others/spouses to sit with them as opposed to them sitting at a separate table.

View Quoted Comment We are actually doing a farmers table

When my future sister-in-law got married, my fiance was one of the groomsmen, I however wasn't a bridesmaid. A bummer, but totally understandable. We were just dating, if we were married it would be a different story.
If she wasn't a first choice, stick with your gut.

Definitely don’t include them because you feel obligated. Just because a friend or family member is in the wedding party doesn’t mean their significant other should be. Drama or not, I’d skip them but ultimately you have to decide if the drama is worth it.

Nope! Only nearest and dearest (and drama-free) as BMs. It would be awkward for her too. She doesn’t really know you. Nope.

Closest friends and family. Otherwise if they don’t work out she will forever be in your wedding photos. Forever. LOL

View Quoted Comment Same we arent doing them either!

View Quoted Comment Oh yes I agree

I say stick to who you want as your bridesmaid! This is your day and you want to have your girls up there supporting you, not have someone up there just because they are dating a groomsman. Maybe find some other way to involve them, if there is any. Helping hands are always welcome, but save the bridesmaids spots for the people you want to have close by on your wedding day!

View Quoted Comment It’s worth it in the sense that in my culture a bachelorette party isn’t a drunken weekend it’s a sacred event for the bride and the bridesmaid to start a journey together

Stick to who you want, you should never feel obligated to include someone just because their SO may also be involved. It'll only make you miserable. FH's brother is his groomsman, but brother's girlfriend is no way involved. I don't really know her and am not about to include her just because her boyfriend is. Plus she'd feel awkward knowing he was the only reason she was asked to be in the bridal party was due to her bf.

View Quoted Comment Yep that’s pretty much it

View Quoted Comment Same! Felt like too much. I didn’t want the people I would’ve chosen (who are all not doing so well financially) to have felt obligated to spend money they didn’t have. Also, we wanted something small and about us, so we opted out from a bridal party.

I would never have someone in my wedding just because of who they're dating.

Definitely not! I would not choose someone out of obligation. If I were in the position of the girlfriend I would feel SUPER weird being asked to be in a bridal party. These should be your nearest and dearest. They can plan ahead for what she can do to not feel lonely if the best man needs to be off taking pictures or something. =

I would not pick someone to avoid drama. My fiancé has friends that I’ve never said two words to their significant others so to just pick them for arguments sake would be so weird to me.

Nope, there is no way I would have somebody to stand with me on my special day just because their significant other is a groomsman