To all the Bridezillas....

Um...wow...I sincerely hope there is no one like that on this site, or anywhere else, for that matter...sorry for your terrible experience!

Oh hell no!

It really, really is. #blessed

As a bride, I know it can get stressful but you have to be considerate of your BMs. They have a life too. Everything does not revolve around "the bride" except for that day.

I'm going to be a BM for my best friend a month before my own wedding (she is then going to be a BM for me).

So far so good. No problems. She has been very considerate always asking our opinions of things. If there was a bridal shower I wasn't there because I live across the country. Also I will have to miss her bachelorette party because I can't take that much time off work. But it is all good. She is just so happy that I'm able to make time to be there with her at her wedding.

I couldn't agree with you more! What is it about weddings that makes a girl snap and think it's ok to treat the people she loves that way? Asking to contribute is one thing, telling you a $ amount is not. I understand that it is my day and I am excited about it, but I don't have to become evil in the process. And I for sure don't want to ruin friendships or family relationships because of it.

Yep. This is not uncommon at all. Many brides believe that bridesmaids should be do anything they want and that the universe revolves around them simply because they are getting married. It's a shame.

Time and time again there is advice on this forum and other forums to treat you bridesmaids well because friendships WILL be affected by awful behavior during wedding planning.

I'm a bridesmaid in my brother's wedding and my only complaint is the lack of communication between bridesmaids. I feel like I'm either totally out of the loop or the only one pushing for conversation. I've called, texted and emailed the MOH and have had minimal response. The bride has been wonderful, but its hard because we're not really a cohesive group when it comes to bridesmaids. I'm her FSIL, her MOH is someone who was like a mother to her, another BM is a cousin and the last two are friends.

I kept my wedding party small and intimate for this reason - no drama. DH had more guys on his side, but there weren't any issues (as far as I know).

I don't remember any of my friends going crazy when I was their BM or MOH, but it was 10 years ago at least when my closest friends were getting married. Even in a decade a lot has changed.

Thank you ladies!!

I've been a bridesmaid a few times, and each time, it's been a great experience. Everyone was glad to be part of the day, no one had unreasonable expectations. It was great to be able to share that special occasion with the people I love.

I'm hoping that my girls will be able to say the same. I just love these ladies, and I want them to be there with me.

But it is unfortunate that people are willing to throw away/damage their friendships for the sake of a party. It may be a special, memorable party, but it's a party, and it's not worth losing friends over!

Thanks, Ariel!!!

As a bride i would never treat my bm that way. My one bm has a 2yr old daughter with cancer so I completely understand she is busy and I dont expect much out of her. My MOH is studying in Canada right now but she will be back in two months. I understand they have lives every bride should understand someobe elses life does not stop because there is a wedding.

Ugh! Being a bridezilla is not worth losing friendship over. All I have asked of my BM's is to buy their dress and show up.

Bridesmaids are not employees. (And, frankly, some people treat employees better than bridesmaids.)

I have a pretty laid back group of friends. Not a Bridezilla in the bunch.

But I was in one wedding where the bride was a little emotionally unstable and her mother is straight-up crazy (should be on meds). I couldn't get out of it without causing family drama so just gritted my teeth and got thru it.

I don't think bridezillas realize that the BMs reach a point where they are almost wishing/praying that you will "fire" them.

OMG that is crazy! I thought bridzillas only existed on tv!!!!

I think that many brides think that it's "all about me" and it is during the day of their events (bridal shower, bach, wedding) other than that, we have lives. LOL.

I am a bride and all I want is the ladies to show up, smile and dance the night away!

I've been moh in 3 weddings. One of them frustrated me a little because the bachelorette was an hour and a half from where me and the bride were sleeping the night before the wedding and the wedding was an hour and a half from where we were sleeping too so in roughly 12 hours I had to drive from Olympia wa to Seattle to Olympia to Seattle. The bachelorette should have been in Olympia or the bride should have found somewhere in Seattle to sleep (I could have stayed at my mom's in Seattle if I hadn't had to drive the bride back to Olympia, where thankfully I had an apartment)

I was a bridesmaid (for the first time) a few weeks ago. I ended up pretty much planning the wedding myself (7 weeks from setting the date to the wedding). The bride called me (literally) 4 - 5 times a day EVERY day. I had to walk her through website (I had to walk her husband through them as well once she decided what she liked and the ordering had to be done). When the favors she ordered came in the mail, I was the only one available to fold boxes, put the glass (her favor) in the boxes and then attach ribbon to the boxes to be used as a handle. And she left me alone in her house so she could take her daughters (14 and 9) to get their nails done.

I should have know that she's going to be a bridesmaidzilla. I decided that my "girls" one need to have the same color dress, she keeps trying to tell me to have the girls wear the same dress. I also decided I don't want to do the bouquet and garter toss and she keeps trying to tell me to add them. I have been told (by my sister/MOH extraordinaire) that as a bride I am too nice. But I really only want those that matter the most to me to be with me as I marry my FH.

Wow! I've been a MOH once and it was in my brother's wedding he married my best friend 15 years ago, that was super exciting and no drama their. My turn and they both coming out in my wedding my brother the BS and SIL will be my MOH. I've plan my wedding since a young girl. I wanted it simple and small. I've asked the BS and MOH to get the dress there style in what they feel comfortable in. I let them know the color I like and the color of the shoes. I am helping my mother with bridal shower because she wants to have one for me. No bacheloretes party for me, I have no problem . My MOH lives in Jersey and the other MOH (who lives near by)I've been having drama with. But I've had not biatched nor turned into a bridezilla. I'm a mellow person.. I think by being a bridezilla things will go so wrong. I've watched friends get married and hearing horror stories. I've watched and learned..

Good luck and God bless to all