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Devoted July 2019

Tips on Tipping??

#WhenYouWishUponAWelch, on January 22, 2019 at 4:48 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
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Okay, I just under 6 months out from my wedding, and I am trying to determine what I will need in regards to tips. My photographer is...very...expensive. I am totally fine with the price, but wonder about tipping on top of that. He will have himself, a 2nd photographer(not an assistant) as well as 2 videographers. Seeing as how he is the business owner, should I expect to tip him less than the others? I was planning on $300 each, but not sure if he should get a little less. Our engagement shoot was included in our package and we tipped him then as well for full disclosure.

As for the DJ/musicians, would you all typically do 20% of the cost? They are doing lighting as well, so should i do 20% off the total? or off the DJ-ing/musician service specifically?

I will have a coordinator supplied by the venue, so I will be tipping that person, whoever that is. I will probably do a few hundred dollars depending on the service.

For transportation I will have a Rolls Royce driving my Dad and I to the venue. I am paying a 3 hour minimum and will be just going to the venue the one time. We are also having a trolley car bring the bridal party as well as bring the guests to and from the venue and the hotel. That will also be my transportation at the end of the night. 20% of the trolley cost? hmm...

As for waitstaff/bar staff, those tips are included in my price per person which is super nice and I am very excited about.

I am sure I am missing things...but any advice would be fantastic!! Thank you all!!


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Latest activity by #WhenYouWishUponAWelch, on March 21, 2019 at 6:58 AM
  • Kelsey
    Savvy July 2019
    Kelsey ·
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    Geese, I just started thinking about this and I'm as flummoxed as you. But from what I have seen in some etiquette books, it's more a set amount than percentage. Like waitstaff each gets 25-35 dollars (no matter the cost of food), DJ gets 100, photographers 100 (who are not the owner, not sure what do about that). Basically I'm planning on giving everyone $100 and hope that is sufficient with the exception of bartenders and waiters who will probably get more like 40 each. I think this also depends on where you live, as this might be being "cheap for new York" and baller status in Laramie Wyoming. I live in Tacoma Washington.
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  • OnCloudRawls
    VIP June 2019
    OnCloudRawls ·
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    Hopefully, these might help! Smiley heart

    Tips on Tipping Wedding Vendors

    A Guide To Wedding Tipping | Who Do You Tip At A Wedding??

    Tipping for your wedding


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  • L
    Dedicated September 2019
    LJ ·
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    You might have read my mind- we were having the tipping discussion today, and I only have more questions to add to the pile! Thanks to the person who posted those videos, they clarified a few things for me Smiley smile

    My question is, my venue is providing my catering and bar service, and gratuity is factored into my contract. That said, do I only tip for exceptional service day of? My plan was to be prepared with a cash envelope with enough to pass $20-40 out to each of the waitstaff, bartenders, etc and only withhold it if some unimaginable atrocity occurs. I have a bad habit of overtipping and I’m trying to break it, but I’d rather be too generous than the other way around.
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  • Jayla
    Champion October 2025
    Jayla ·
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    This is such a great question!! When it comes to photographers or videographers, if they own their own business then tippings isn't exactly necessary but if they work for a company then you would want to consider it! In your case since it's a few people, you could choose to only tip those working with the photographer or go with what you mentioned and tip him a little less. We have an awesome guide on tipping your vendors that is very helpful. The guide is also broken down into a complete list of wedding vendors so it's easy to navigate through! - Exactly How Much To Tip Wedding Vendors: A Complete List

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  • #WhenYouWishUponAWelch
    Devoted July 2019
    #WhenYouWishUponAWelch ·
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    Thank you everyone!!
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  • #WhenYouWishUponAWelch
    Devoted July 2019
    #WhenYouWishUponAWelch ·
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    That sounds fair to me for the waitstaff
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  • Alejandra
    Super March 2019
    Alejandra ·
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    Im basing off their total price and performance, so my DJ & his assistant/ photo-booth attendant (if needed, because its a self serve type of thing) total price is $1500 I'll be doing about $150-$200 unless they don't deliver as promised. My florist will be setting up my tables for me with any decorations so she'll be getting about $100, my total bill for my flowers is about $800 (I know super bargain deal). My officiant will be getting $50, photographer $60 each (I'll have 2). My hair and make up artist will be getting about $20-$30 each as they'll be doing my mom, sister and myself so they'll probably leave with $60-$70 each.

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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    These video's helped a ton! Thank you!
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  • Tanya
    Beginner September 2020
    Tanya ·
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    I'll be honest, I just started planning my wedding back in Dec., and it wasn't until this post that I realized you had to tip the vendors?! They're so expensive, gratuity wasn't something that came to mind, especially since most of them are the owners. O.o

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  • V
    Super April 2019
    Valerie ·
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    The only thing I would add to this discussion is tipping waitstaff $20 is SUPER low. I am tipping waitstaff at least $50 and bartenders $100-$150. I also was a bartender for a long time and know that tipping any less than that would mean it wouldn't be worth my time to work the wedding. I usually got between $100-200 from the bride and groom and another $200ish from the guests. Make note, this amount is less than I would make actually working at a bar for that amount of time, but was worth it because weddings were fun.

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  • #WhenYouWishUponAWelch
    Devoted July 2019
    #WhenYouWishUponAWelch ·
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    My venue includes tips for waitstaff and bartenders in my per person charge. Which is something I really appreciate. The staff is not even supposed to take a tip if offered. If I were tipping I would probably do $1-$2 per person. Smiley smile
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