Tipping by check?

Hm...I wouldn't. If anything, possibly a cashier's check? It should be something that's as good as cash -- what if there's an issue with your account, and you're gone after the wedding, etc?

My experience has been that tips in envelopes are either cash or check. While I appreciate either/or, my preference is the check.

Oh, really, Centerpiece? That's so interesting -- I would assume that people prefer cash! I'd be curious to hear what other vendors have to say about it, too.

Oh FH and I won't be away after the wedding, not going on a honeymoon.

ET correct spelling, my phone likes to change 'and' to 'abd'. No fucking clue why.

Well, it's kind a weird personal oddity of mine, lol. If I receive cash, I will immediately put it in my wallet. If it ends up in my wallet, it's gone in two days and I have no idea where it really went (maybe the convenience store, a gas station, or a drive thru). If it's a check, it goes into the bank and if I want to splurge and get myself something with that money, I get online immediately and go shopping. For me, I am far more prone to actually use the money for something personal if it goes right into the bank.

I get why people want cash, but for the most part, if you make the check out to the individual and put "gift" in the memo line, providing they have a bank account, it's the same as cash. I'm a check girl myself.

I hadn't really thought of this, but I agree having lots of cash on hand day of would make me uncomfortable. I'll probably do checks.

I was just going to do checks for tips, since we probably wont carry much cash on us the day of wedding.

I have been thinking about asking my vendors this question, as it's not only tipping i will be doing at the end of the night but paying the vendors. I'm not interested in putting it on a credit card and it's unlikely any of my cards would work at that amount..

I would imagine cash is better, for example for your hair stylist, MUA, servers/bartenders, or delivery guys who probably don't claim their tips (any servers/bartenders on here will understand)

I am giving cash. Do you write your waitress, bartender, etc. a check at a restaurant?

Monica - I think you missed my point, and the fact I stated that I prefer to give cash.

I'm also not going to a restaurant and ringing up a $60.00 bill or grabbing an $8.00 martini on a Friday night while meeting up with a friend. I'm dealing with numerous professionals on what will be one of the most busy days of my life and I'm spending thousands of dollars on each one of them. I've never tipped anyone $200.00 before, none the less will I be putting out approximately $600.00 in just tips alone.

And I pretty much just convinced myself that IDGAF, the vendors will be receiving checks for their tips. With the exception of my nail lady, but I'm getting my nails done the day before.

I think either is fine, and I've gotten both.

@JenniferandRick -- Most brides pay their vendors off at least a couple days before the wedding, just so that this is all taken care of. I'm pretty sure that vendors would recommend you send them a check for the remaining balance a week ahead of time. No one wants to be paying vendors on the night of!

Oh I missed that comment FutureMrsT!

All of my vendors require to be paid in full before the day of. Which I'm tankful for.

Ive gotten checks before, nbd to me. It all spends the same.

Since you're not legally obligated to leave a tip at all, they can't really complain if you leave it in a check rather than cash.

I hadn't even thought about using a check for giving tips...but now that you mention it, that may end up being what I do as well.

Fine Greetings,

We always receive our final payment, after our Flute and Violin Wedding Duo has performed our final note. A handful of Couples, each year, will ask to pay in advance. The majority of Couples, though, pay us, on their Wedding Day.

When our Couples tip our Ceremony Duo -- which is so kind and generous of them -- it has always been a cash gesture. But, we would not have any issue, at all, with a check.

For the Final Wedding Day Payment...

Usually, either the Best Man, or Banquet Manager, or an Assigned Relative handles our final payment. Having 200+ Weddings to my credit, all has always gone smoothly, with the Couple's Designated Person seeing us at the end, for our final payment.

Each Bride should do what she is totally comfy with, so that she can rest easy.

All the best to everyone for an outstandingly magical Wedding Day Celebration!

Sincerely, Michele, Jersey Shore

Since the subject is tipping, I have to post this. Two days ago, I received a package in the mail. It was addressed to my business partner. I knew what it was -- part of a bride's deceased mom's veil that the client wanted incorporated into her bouquet (she was even sweet enough to cut it herself -- my partner told her that she couldn't arbitrarily cut up a MOB wedding veil). When this bride contacted my partner (via email) to say that the veil was in the mail, she added a sentence that said, "Oh, and there's a healthy tip for you in the package."

Healthy -- for us -- means a few hundred dollars. I cannot express my surprise when my partner told me what the amount of the tip was. Get ready....$2,000 (and this is based on the service she's received and the photos on our website and FB pages -- her wedding hasn't happened yet). My partner contacted her and asked her if it was a mistake. She wrote, "No, this is exactly what I wanted you to have. All I've ever heard is that you tip every vendor except the florist because they are business owners. My father is a business owner, and I know that after all is said and done, his employees earn as much, if not more, than he does." I'm shocked and my partner is so grateful. Oh, and it came in the form of a check, lol. So, yeah, tip with checks!