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Melissa
Savvy August 2018

Tinder love

Melissa, on March 30, 2018 at 7:04 PM

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Did anyone else meet their FH on Tinder? We did and we keep telling family we met at college because we don't want them to know and think the worst of us. Especially our parents. I'm kind of worried it will get out at the wedding and emarassing stories will ensue. Just looking for some comforting...
Did anyone else meet their FH on Tinder? We did and we keep telling family we met at college because we don't want them to know and think the worst of us. Especially our parents. I'm kind of worried it will get out at the wedding and emarassing stories will ensue. Just looking for some comforting words, honestly.

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  • Krista
    Devoted June 2018
    Krista ·
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    We met on Tinder and I could tell when we first started dating my FH was nervous to tell people. We've been dating for a few years and we have told people now. A lot of the older people who would maybe not like it honestly don't seem to know what it is. No one seems to care though if anything they find it kind of funny. You're getting married that's so exciting so who cares how you met. It led you to now!
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  • J
    Expert May 2018
    J ·
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    My FH and I met on Coffee Meets Bagel and we are very open about it (it was a popular app for a little while but I guess not so much now). In fact, we described exactly how we met on our wedding website and lots of people have told us it’s a cute story (I made some jokes about how I had gone on some dates with stale bagels and how I hoped FH would be my everything bagel). Any stigma that still exists against online dating is outdated and people just need to realize that it’s a normal way to meet now.
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  • Melissa
    Savvy August 2018
    Melissa ·
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    Thanks everyone!!! Appreciate all the positive feedback Smiley smile

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  • Elizabeth
    Expert April 2018
    Elizabeth ·
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    We met on match, I know that's different then tinder but it's still online. I used to be embarrassed, but now-a-days people do that all the time. Plus that's how I met my love. However embarrassing, it led to a great thing so I'm just honest about it. I don't want the headache of making a backstory and trying not to forget it and making sure we both tell the same story. My tagline was "looking for someone to beat me at mario kart" and his first message to me was "I can beat you at mario kart" and that was it. Now we're having a mario kart themed cake!

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  • J
    Just Said Yes October 2018
    Julie ·
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    We met on Tinder! We know several other couples who did, too. We were a little shy about telling my family how we met at first because they are very traditional and conservative, but everyone knows now. We are perfect for each other and that's all that matters!
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  • A
    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Angela ·
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    I met my FH on Tinder 4 years ago. I think that website has a bad reputation but its not all bad. A lot of people say it's a hook up site and that's not really what it is. Yes a lot of people use it that way but many don't. We both made it clear we were looking for a relationship. It's your story! Tell it how you want to. Smiley smile
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  • WeddingCruiser2019
    Devoted January 2019
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    FH and I met on Plenty of Fish - I am very open about it because honestly how do you meet significant others anymore? My grandparents met at a dance - but I don't see dances around anymore. In the VERRYYY beginning I was kind of embarrassed about it and I remember I lied to one person, but that didn't last very long.

    I know SOOOOOOOOOOO many people who met their significant others online, I find it more common nowadays than meeting in person.

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
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    We half did. We already worked on the same floor of our office(diff departments) and he had tried talking to me before apparently but I'm super shy and didn't realize it lol. We had been talking a little after a bit since he'd always come into my supervisors cube when I was in there trying to cheer her up after her son passed away. We'd make fun of each other and just be weird to distract her. A month after that started I was bored going through Tinder and saw his picture and swiped only to realize he swiped too lol. I messaged him and was like hey I know you LOL. I had no idea he actually liked me! So Tinder actually just helped break the ice so he finally asked me out on a date.

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  • Mrs. Sponge
    Master April 2018
    Mrs. Sponge ·
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    My FH and I met on Plenty of Fish. We don't have a problem telling people that. No one seems to have a problem with it. We wouldn't have met if it wasn't for online dating.

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  • Sarah
    VIP July 2018
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    My brother and his fiance met on Tinder and their hashtag includes it! Embrace it!

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  • Terri
    Savvy October 2019
    Terri ·
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    I love that there are so many POF couples! That's what we are too - we met 11 years ago back when we still couldn't tell anyone (read: his mother) how we were introduced. 😊 It's very common now, and I don't think you have a thing to worry about. ❤
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  • firstoneat56
    Master August 2017
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    What difference does it make where you met? It only matters that you did meet and fell in love! Back in my day, people felt shame if they met someone through a personal ad (yes, that's how far back I go) but meeting online is incredibly common. The fact that you lied about it made it a big deal. I'd fess up now before someone says something at the wedding, especially after they've had a few drinks.

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  • Mary
    Dedicated November 2018
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    We met on Tinder! When people ask, we just say we met online. Honestly, it’s so common these days, no one bats an eye. And if they do want to judge my relationship by how I met the love of my life, they can f*** off, as far as I’m concerned.
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  • MrsSnez
    Super October 2018
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    FH and I met in real life and people are sometimes judgey about that: he put a note with his name and phone under my window wiper (we lived in the same apt complex) and people always ask me why I didn't find that creepy. Long story short, own your story because it led to the beautiful wedding day and life that you're planning together!
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  • Shamina
    Savvy August 2019
    Shamina ·
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    My fiance and I met on tinder. Everyone that ask how we met each other we tell them the truth. There is no shame in online dating its 2018. People who have anything negative to say about it don't need to be apart of such a beautiful experience.
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  • Summer
    Super August 2018
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    Not Tinder but a similar app - we just tell people we met online, and it's only ever awkward with older relatives who don't understand that SO many people meet that way now - almost everyone I know whose gotten into a relationship in the past 3 years has met that way, it's just practical. I wouldn't say "Tinder" just say "online" but I would be honest with at least your parents, and maybe let everyone know that you'd rather they not bring it up at the wedding. But honestly don't let it make you ashamed, it's not a big deal.

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  • Heather
    VIP January 2019
    Heather ·
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    I know lots of couples who started out online. There is nothing to be embarrassed by, though getting caught in the fib may be less than ideal. I am sure everything will blow over though and eventually be just a funny anecdote.
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  • lilchameleon
    Expert April 2019
    lilchameleon ·
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    I've photographed a lot of weddings of couples who met on Tinder lately, and I say embrace it! No shame in it!

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  • Suzie
    Dedicated May 2020
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    My FH And I met before Tinder was a thing, but a friend of mine met his now-wife of Tinder and they are the most perfect couple ever. Rather than judge them for it I’ve always used them as an example when someone says “you can’t get a serious partner on Tinder”. Because no one who knows them and how they feel about each other could ever judge how they met. Smiley smile
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  • BlushingBride
    Dedicated July 2018
    BlushingBride ·
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    My FH and I met online (POF) and that's what we tell people. No one has judged us as far as we know and if they did, oh well! It's a different time and very common these days.
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