Melissa
Savvy August 2018

Tinder love

Melissa, on March 30, 2018 at 7:04 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 119
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Did anyone else meet their FH on Tinder? We did and we keep telling family we met at college because we don't want them to know and think the worst of us. Especially our parents. I'm kind of worried it will get out at the wedding and emarassing stories will ensue. Just looking for some comforting words, honestly.

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Latest activity by Meaghan, on April 12, 2018 at 5:34 PM
  • Kiley
    Super February 2019
    Kiley ·
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    My fh and I met before tinder was a thing. But we met through Facebook. There are still very few people who know the truth about how we met..
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  • Amanda
    Expert June 2018
    Amanda ·
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    My honey and i met online. (Okay cupid) anf we are totally honest about it. There is no shame in online dating...
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  • Bridecb
    Devoted June 2018
    Bridecb ·
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    My FSIL and her husband met on tinder. Some people laughed but it was short lived. How you meet doesn’t determine your relationship. They’re very happy and everyone is just happy for them
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  • O
    Master October 2017
    O ·
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    The only people who know what website my H and I met on is my family. We are very open in that way. Whereas, in my H's family they're very traditional, and don't talk candidly.
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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·
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    We met online and we tell anyone who asks. Besides the fact that there is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, like Judge Judy says, "if you tell the truth , you don't have to have a good memory" and you don't have to lie.

    Our paths would never have crossed if we both hadn't posted online.

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  • Shaya
    Devoted March 2018
    Shaya ·
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    I met my husband on okcupid! I get that tindr is a little different but basically every single person is on there, and there’s no shame in it! We’re totally open with people about how we met.
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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated April 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    Not Tinder, but Plenty of Fish. Not need to fib about it! It’s the way of the world now
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  • Alyssa
    Super December 2018
    Alyssa ·
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    We met on Plenty of Fish also! My fh was embarassed at first but I’m not and my confidence in it made him nore comfortable. I think your family would be disappointed you felt you couldn’t be honest if they find out.
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  • J
    Just Said Yes April 2018
    Jacqueline ·
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    My FH and I met on tinder and we tell everyone who asks and they don't find it strange but cool actually as now a days its a very common thing to meet online. I wouldn't be worried if family and friends find out at the end of the day it only matters how happy and in love you and your fh are.
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  • M
    Dedicated September 2018
    Marissa ·
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    Plenty of fish for us too!!!
    We've been honest about it from the beginning. I don’t think meeting your person on a dating site is embarrassing because that’s what they were made for.
    Sure people use them for hook ups but that’s not the only reason people use them!
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  • Amarriedmann
    Expert June 2019
    Amarriedmann ·
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    I think my family would be more disappointed about the lie than how you met. The longer you hold it the more stressed you’ll be and wedding planning is stressful enough! I also agree with pp re: Judge Judy’s Mark Twain quote! The truth shall set you free. Please don’t begin the melding of two families with a lie.

    Did you meet on Tinder while in college? If so, I’d casually slide that extra factoid it into a convo one day and see if it raises any eyebrows. If it does, just shrug and state that however you met, it was clearly meant to be. Who can argue fate right?😜
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    We met on Bumble and we’ve never lied to anyone about it. I think it’s super common nowadays. I also am not a fan of lying to families about something like that. You’re an adult and it’s your life.
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  • S
    Devoted November 2018
    shante ·
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    My FH and i met on Zoosk and got engaged 5 months later. My parents hated the idea of online dating, but they also know me and trust my judgment. I am 38 and i've never brought a guy home to the whole family. So they knew he was special and they all love him. I wish our story was more romantic but FH helped me to appreciate our story more...he said because of online dating we were able to special order each other. I loved that idea. Plus the "fate" or "magical" side is that if i hadnt clicked on the filter to meet a guy within just one extra mile than what my FH chose, we never would have met.
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated September 2018
    Elizabeth ·
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    FH and I met on OKCupid. No shame in online dating! That's the only way I could meet men in my small city, since I'm not into bars and I'm pretty introverted, and I didn't know anyone when I moved here 4 years ago. If they ask, we tell everyone we met online.
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  • AmandaJHGV
    Devoted October 2017
    AmandaJHGV ·
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    Not an online thing but still the sort of thing that gets raised eyebrows: Hooking up after a grad school party is how DH and I got together. We were both "not looking for a relationship" so we proceeded to "not be in a relationship" with each other for the better part of a year before finally submitting to the inevitable.

    We don't hide it, and we chose the song "Fooled Around and Fell In Love" for our first dance.

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  • Aja
    Dedicated November 2018
    Aja ·
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    I met my FH online! On Plenty of Fish. I've had a few family members give me the side eye when I told them but hey, it worked out didn't it?
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    FW and I met on Tinder, but we tell everyone that we met at a bar which is technically where we met in person for the first time, so it's only a half lie! We wouldn't mind if it came out, but Tinder was still new and sketchy when we met.

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  • plangalCG
    VIP May 2018
    plangalCG ·
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    Another POF couple! I think the more people say they meet online the less supposed stigma there will be. I don’t even know how people would meet without the internet these days!
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  • Melissa
    Savvy August 2018
    Melissa ·
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    So we met on tinder 5 years ago. Feels like forever in this tinder day and age
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  • J
    Expert June 2018
    Jamie ·
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    I met my FH on eharmony. I love telling everyone cause I winked at him first.
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