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Savvy September 2019

Thursday Wedding

BJ28, on January 8, 2019 at 11:50 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 21

To get the fancy venue I want we are considering a Thursday wedding to be within budget. I did think about people needing time off work but if we send out save the dates then it gives people 8 months to request time off. Are there any other pros and cons to this? Party may end early if people don’t take Friday off was a thought I had but anything else? Thanks!

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Latest activity by Jodie, on January 27, 2019 at 5:16 PM
  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
    Kenisha ·
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    People who want to be there are going to come regardless of what day your wedding is held on. Yes it’s more convenient to have it on a Saturday but it’s not a big deal.
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  • Keary
    Expert May 2019
    Keary ·
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    I know a lot of people who work 4-10s or a 9-80 schedule. Going to a great party to start your weekend sounds amazing to me! Just give plenty of notice, and you'll be fine
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  • B
    Savvy September 2019
    BJ28 ·
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    Thank you! Smiley smile I feel good about it

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  • B
    Savvy September 2019
    BJ28 ·
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    Thank you! That makes me feel better! Smiley heart

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Would Sunday afternoon or early evening work? That might be better. If not, is everyone local and traffic ok? If so, you may be fine! I couldn’t imagine having a Thur night wedding in most So Cal cities... it could take 1-2 hours to drive across one city. Ugh.
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  • Terra
    Expert September 2020
    Terra ·
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    We're doing a Tuesday evening wedding. 🤷 Probably starting ceremony at 7pm (20min tops) and then immediately to reception until everyone goes home. We'll do a first look and get literally all pics out of the way early that afternoon so we don't waste any time in the evening. Guest list is at about 70 right now, but I wouldn't expect more than 30-40 people to come, which is fine. We wanted a smaller event anyway and I know our family and closest friends will be there so I won't be angry or absolutely heartbroken when a bunch of other people decline. I think a weekday wedding is totally fine just as long as you're willing to roll with the punches and don't expect it to be as big or extravagant as a weekend affair.
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  • S
    Devoted January 2019
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    Honestly, I think it is pretty inconvenient if people are travelling long distances. For example, if someone has to take off Wed. to travel there, Thurs. for the wedding, and Fri. to travel back, that really is a lot and for many people isn't doable. If people are local, I think it should be fine as long as you aren't disappointed if people don't stay out as late as they might on a weekend night.

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    Super April 2019
    Valerie ·
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    It depends if your guest list is local or not. I would not travel for a Thursday wedding unless it was in my wedding because it just isn't possible to travel during the school year or for my FH to take off 2-3 days of work at any point in the year

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  • Britt Brat
    Expert May 2019
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    I agree 100%!!

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  • Rachel
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    We are actually having a Monday wedding. I thought for sure this would mean a lot of people wouldn’t go. Well, to my surprise, we have nearly a 100% attendance from who we invited. Most of our friends have already flights, rooms, travel arrangements, etc.

    No one seems to mind the Monday wedding idea. In fact, we had a few people thank us. Some thanked us because they usually use their weekends to run around doing errands or taking some downtime. Now they have an excuse to take a day of work and have a nice long weekend. Others work weekends (shop owners, flight attendants, models, photographers, hair dressers, etc), so they were really appreciative that they were finally being invited to a wedding that wouldn’t be hard for them to attend.

    People are going to have their opinions about your wedding no matter what. But it’s your day and you’re paying for it. Therefore, you get to make the decisions. The people who you are closest to will make it work. And as long as you’re okay with some people not being able to go because it’s a Thursday, then I say go for it! I would happily take a Friday off in order to enjoy a friend’s Thursday wedding.

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    Savvy September 2019
    BJ28 ·
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    We have considered Sunday night. Traffic is good here but good observation! I didn’t think about big cities having traffic issues. Thanks!


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    Savvy September 2019
    BJ28 ·
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    All local, actually we live 3 hours away from everyone else and are planning on having the wedding up there to make it convenient. People would really only need to take Thursday off and Friday if they choose. Thanks!

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    Savvy September 2019
    BJ28 ·
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    That is so helpful! Thank you!

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  • MrsD
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    I was in a Thursday wedding in 2017. They had a guest list of 75 people, about 60 came. Most were in the area. I was an out of state bridesmaid so it was inconvenient to take Wednesday-Friday off work but I had plenty of heads up so it was fine. What I noticed is people didn't drink/dance/party very much since most worked the next day and people left around 7 PM (wedding ended at 8 PM anyway). I wouldn't take Friday off for a Thursday wedding unless I was in the wedding. I'd possibly only go for the reception too if the ceremony was before work ended.

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    Savvy September 2019
    BJ28 ·
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    Good info! Thank you! What do you think about a Monday wedding?

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I assume it would be easier for the wedding party if they work weekdays, since they would only take off 2 days instead of 3? It just depends for the vibe you want. I think more "party" late night weddings are better on Thursday/Friday/Saturday and more laid back earlier weddings are good on Sunday/Monday

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    Savvy September 2019
    BJ28 ·
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    Ya I am back and forth because I think if it is Monday then they have the weekend before but will have to go back Tuesday. Thursday I think it’s close to the weekend but then they have to have Thursday and possibly Friday off. Thanks!

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    Emily ·
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    It's really up to you but if you decide to do a Thursday, you will have to be understanding that many people may not come because of that. It will be harder if you have out of towners, and for anyone who has limited vacation time.

    I would absolutely do a Thursday over a Monday/Tuesday. Another thing to consider though is what time your wedding will start. We were invited to a Friday wedding for my husband's cousin. We missed the ceremony because even with leaving work early, I couldn't get home, get ready and get to the wedding in time. We were only at the reception. Personally, I don't like doing that as it feels a little gross to me (the ceremony is the whole reason for the wedding) and I would have preferred being able to make it to both. The couple did not mind, but I know that bothers some brides as well.

    Just some things to consider.

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  • H.
    Beginner August 2019
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    We’re getting married on a Thursday in Aug at 6:30. Ppl who want to be there will come!
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    I went to a thursday wedding. It was nice, but most people left early because of work the next day. There weren't many at the actual ceremony either. It is a great cost saving measure I know. If you go for it i'd give friends and family plenty of time to try and get friday off or to be able to go in late

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