Thursday Wedding

I am having my wedding on a Thursday! At first I had doubts but those who love you will make an effort no matter what day it is. And most people are taking Friday off so it will be along weekend for them.

I was about to say that I attended a Thursday wedding but now I'm remembering I was IN the wedding! Still not a big deal since it was local. I had to leave work early that day but FH and I both went to work the next day.. it didn't go very late.

Completely agree with @MelissaHH. I think Thursdays (and even Fridays depending on start time) can be inconsiderate to your guests. Even if your ceremony isn't until later in the evening, it's difficult for people to get there on time without taking off work. They have to go home, get ready, take care of kids/pets, and then drive to your venue. It's really a big ask for a bunch of your guests to have to use vacation time on your local wedding. Especially for their SO and plus ones who may not know you as much, but still want to attend to support their SO. Is it for cost reasons? If so would you consider a Sunday?

We do Thursdays all summer long; every year for the past three or four, more of our venues are promoting Thursdays. I have not seen a marked rise in the declines (we keep track of anticipated numbers from contract to the event)...generally, the crowds are just about what the couple anticipates.

Not everyone works 9-5, M-F; even for a weekend wedding, there may be people who can't (or won't) take the time to come; that's a fact of life. You could make the same argument for any given holiday weekend too. That shouldn't be the proof of whether they love you or not and you can't work around everyone.....I could never go to a Sat or Sun wedding unless it was in February, and even then, it would be a maybe.

If it's too much trouble to go to Thursday wedding, there is always the NO box on the rsvp..... if you don't want to use a vacation day for a wedding, then there is always the no box.....

Thats a good point. I'm guessing by looking at your guest list you can tell about how many people would have a difficult time going on a Thursday. For me there is only 1 guest who works on Saturday's (besides plus ones that I don't know of yet) and she also works Thursday nights so it's a lose lose. But if I did it on Thursday I'd be inconveniencing about 180 other guests. I guess you just have to look at your guest lists and see what day would make the most sense for you.

Check with your VIPs first!

Thank you everyone. This helps a lot.

We are having a Thursday wedding and it works because almost all of our guests are retired or traveling from so far away they are making a vacation out of it. For the couple that work locally, we are doing it in the evening so they can come afterward. We are also only having 20 guests, but they've all said they will come pending unforeseen circumstances.

I think you should check with your VIPs first and see what they think? I do work a 9-5 M-F job, and even if we were super close, I couldn't take off a long weekend or come to a 2pm wedding. An evening wedding I'd definitely try to make. Again, know your crowd, if its smaller or you don't care about the no's then go for it! I'm sure the no rsvp are similar to any other day but I think if it were me I'd plan for an evening wedding.

Are you ok with people saying no because they have to work or leaving early because they have work the next day? If yes, go for it!

I got married on a Thursday! It was great. 110 guest invited - 104 showed up! Many were OOT too. I was surprised with our turn out. The mood was NO different, everyone had a great time and a lot of people came back to our hotel to keep the party going. We made sure with our VIPs at first and then went on with planning. This is a know your crowd type of thing too. Not everyone works Mon-Fr 9-5 in our group so it was not a big deal. The ones who came from OOT stayed and made a long weekend out of it. I am totally for Thursday weddings

I’m getting married on a Thursday, four days before christmas. We picked that date because it is important to us, and completely understood that might mean that some people would decline.

I have also been in the restaurant business for 25 years, so thursday actually is my normal weekend, and the normal weekend of most of my close friends.

All of my family is coming from out of town, so no matter when we did it, people would be taking time off work.

All of those factors should go into your decision (but the acceptance of more declines should be number 1) to plan for a Thursday or even a Sunday wedding.

In the summer I could make it work, and with enough notice people can make arrangements. Just don't be surprised if people can't make it work for various reasons or leave early if they have to work Friday

If there aren't many people who have to travel Thursday should be fine. Daytime or evening wedding after people get out of work? (Edited-can't spell!)

Even if I loved someone I still may not be able to make their Thursday wedding pending Time of year. I wouldn't take off work to go out of town unless it was a best friend or sibling and even then I'd be annoyed with the whole thing. Just my personal opinion. I feel like Saturday weddings are best. Friday and Sunday if it's a must, but any other day I do personally feel is inconsiderate unless you're fine with people leaving early or not coming at all.

Definitely check with your VIP's first. Saturdays are still the most popular for a reason and venues wouldn't be offering discounts to book other days if they didn't have to.

Thanks for all the insight. Our wedding will start at 6:30pm. The ceremony and reception is at the same location. FH and I have large families that we are very close to. So Thursday definitely worked out for us. I'm sure it will all work out in the end.

We are having a Thursday wedding. Main reason is the date. Most of our family does not work and those of us that do work weekends so for us it's much easier to get a Thursday off than a Saturday or Sunday. (Nursing schedules suck) we took into consideration the people we are inviting and there are a few that may not make it or will need to leave work early to attend but it works for the majority of the guests. Our invite count is 85 total. A weekend wedding would have been very hard for myself and wedding party to get off. So it all depends on your situation. I just made sure to send out stds as quickly as possible so that the few could make any requests they needed to. Ultimately it's your wedding, your day and will be your anniversary date FOREVER so do what works for you.

@Kip K thank you!

If you dont have OOT guests and your future SO is cool with it, i say go for it.

doing weddings during the week can significantly cut the cost of everything. just make sure to get the date and time down to everyone in good time so they can request off work.