Throwing my own bridal shower

I'm not having a bridal shower. I am just not much into parties. We're going to host a small gathering for our wedding party to thank them for being a part of our special day. We will have a small token of thanks to each one. The main gift for my bridal party is their dress.

I don't think so. I kept mine simple by having a few close friends over for a pure romance party. Just me and 5 other females. OMG we had a blast.

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Both of you two are right. Why not ?

View Quoted Comment This is really common. I have done a lot of showers where I or a small group let the bride know well in advance, yes we will do a shower for you in the month of --one of last 3 months. And since usually invitations for showers go out at 3-4 weeks ahead, we always got together again and did actual planning one to 2 weeks before sending invitations out. For a shower one month before the wedding, planning would start at 8-10 weeks out . And since hostesses , not brides, plan showers, we did not involve the bride in anything but the choosing of a date. And a request that she give us the list of female wedding guests, and their addresses, and check off those people she felt closest to. We would choose how many we could afford and fit where we were holding the shower. What OP takes for people doing nothing but make promises, is actually what most shower hostesses do this far before a January wedding. Then kick it in Oct or Nov at the latest .

View Quoted Comment Because you should not round up people to give you presents for yourself. It is narcissistic. If you want a no presents party, a bridal social gathering is fine to throw for your family and friends. But not a shower, which is all about presents. Nothing wrong with a regular party. Everything wrong with inviting people to come and give you a present, a shower .

Yes it's a bad idea to throw your own shower. It is one of the downfalls of not having a bridal party. No one will feel obligated to throw you a shower. If my friend or cousin or sister were getting married and I wasn't in their bridal party I would assume someone else was throwing a shower and not even think about trying to be the one to step up and do it. Unless it's tradition in your family for your mom to throw it then I wouldn't expect one.

I think throwing one yourself is totally fine, I personally want to throw myself one and NOT because of the gifts, but for the experience, I think leaving the pressure on someone else to do it for you is worst, not only do they have to pay for it but have unnecessary stress on top of their daily life routines . buuut that's just me

View Quoted Comment I agree with this! I threw myself a baby shower cuz my ex’s sister wanted to throw one for me but my ex said that she couldn’t afford it so instead of declining and risk making her feel bad he just said we were doing it ourselves. No one thought it was bad taste or strange but I think that is just what was done and it was expected. I’m not the only one in my side of the family that has done this and honestly I never thought it mattered who was throwing a shower until I started wedding planning 😂. But I would definitely wait until after your cousins wedding and it gets closer to yours! Good luck and congratulations!!!🎉

I am not actually having a shower. No one has mentioned planning one for me. My wedding is in September so I doubt I will have one. I am really not too bummed out about it, considering all my friends and most of my family leave in a different state.