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Devoted May 2019

Throw You’re Own Engagement Party!?!

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Ella Marie, on April 8, 2018 at 12:20 AM

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Now hear me out before any snap judgements lol!!

We are having a DW! May of 2019. Only super close family and our bridal party are invited..so that’s right around 40-45 guests tops. We were throwing around the idea of later on next summer having a bigger reception once we come back home for the rest of our families and friends who wouldn’t be coming to the wedding. But, instead of doing that we thought about doing an Engagement Party this summer for everyone. Low key, a bbq type party at a pavilion at a park. My family and my fiancé’s family would make food. We’d have cupcakes, food, alcohol, corn hole, games. That’s my fiancé and I. Just low key. We would ask for N O gifts! The point of this party is not for gifts. We don’t want any and will not ask. We just want to celebrate with everyone who won’t be able to make it down for the wedding. Now my question is, is it wrong for my fiancé and I to plan this?

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VIP September 2018
rica · on April 8, 2018 at 10:17 AM
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I think it’s important to share the other perspective and say that I wouldn’t be offended at all. Destination weddings can only accommodate a small amount of people, and as a friend I would understand that I don’t have the same status as your family that is going.
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Red Queen · on April 8, 2018 at 3:45 PM
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I would say "best wishes only" instead of "no gifts".
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Dedicated April 2019
Futuremrsgrill · on April 8, 2018 at 4:05 PM
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If you really wanted to rename it you could call it a pre wedding bbq bash lol. I would invite whoever you want there. Maybe on the invite say something about not being able to invite everyone to your DW but still wanting to celebrate with everyone you love?
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Malwen107 · on April 8, 2018 at 4:06 PM
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I wouldn't interpret that to mean no gifts, maybe others would.
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ISaidHallYes · on April 8, 2018 at 4:12 PM
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Most engagement parties I’ve been to have been hosted by the couple themselves. I don’t see a big deal. Enjoy it and have a good time. I see this the same as a post dw reception!
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ISaidHallYes · on April 8, 2018 at 4:14 PM
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Guess all my friends are rude then. Oh well 💁‍♀️
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Dedicated June 2018
Noelle · on April 8, 2018 at 4:28 PM
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Throw the party for yourselves and call it an engagement party! I have not heard of people being expected to bring gifts for an engagement party. You also do not have to limit your guests to people who are invited to the big reception after your wedding.
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Dedicated January 2019
Jacqueline · on April 8, 2018 at 4:49 PM
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I would not be offended at all of I was invited to the engagement party and not the wedding. That being said I also don’t think you need to rename the party, having an engagement party to celebrate with everyone is a great idea. Go for it. If people get offended, they’re apople that would have been offended weather you had an engagement party or not.
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Devoted May 2019
Ella Marie · on April 9, 2018 at 12:11 AM
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Thank you all!!!! You’ve been a big help! I think we’re going to stick with an “engagement party” for the invites!!
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PalmTrees · on April 9, 2018 at 8:17 PM
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I very much agree with this. I’d have no problem being invited to a party to celebrate someone’s engagement. I wouldn’t care if you were hosting it yourselves and I wouldn’t be offended about not being invited to a destination wedding. Glad you’re going to go for it!
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