Three Days Until, RSVP Issues & Best Last Minute Excuse

Honestly, i wouldn't bother with either. there is a chance you'll get some pop ups (rsvp'd no or uninvited guests showing up) to at least cover some of the plates. But hey, people flake and all you can do is say " whatever " and go have the time of your life!

Don't even worry about it girl! It will all work out in the end, and worst case scenario, you will have a little extra food to take home with you at the end of the night. Just focus on all the wonderful people who are showing up and forget about the flakes!

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Excuse 1: I have a date that night, it's our first date. Can I bring him? It'll be so romantic.

(Admire the guts, stood there shaking my head for a solid minute)

Excuse 2: I'm going to Chicago instead, sorry guys.

Excuse 3: I have plans on Sunday. Oh it's Saturday, oh I can be there, oh wait I'm playing cornhole.

Excuse 4: I spent too much at the bar last weekend, I can't afford to go out.

There you have it, the best of the declines. What was your best excuse?

LMAO @ Can't afford to go out!

You're the one footing the bill, well unless its a cash bar, but either way..

Man, those excuses suck.

I wouldn't bother with either, but because I can be a B in these instances I would probably tell the ones who declined that since they RSVP'd yes you are losing money.... just to guilt them a tad

My FSIL told us she couldn't come, and it was because she asked to bring her new BF to an 18 person wedding.. After she RSVPed yes, and we said no. She now has changed her mind about refusing and is telling everyone but us that she now wants to go.

I would let these people decline and then cut them out of your life because they obviously don't care. So why should you?

I can't believe they gave you those excuses. Talk about prioritizing.... maybe allow her to bring her date since you have available spots?

I have a coworker who wants to come to bridal shower, although she's not invited to the wedding. And another girl who wants to serve food at the bridal shower. I will invite both of them if ppl cancel last min. With your wedding being a few days away I think it's too last min. Unless you have a similar situation, like me.

Agree with @SunshineJenn. Those excuses are sh***y and are friendship ending moves, if you ask me.

We had FH's uncle decline by telling FH's dad to tell us he could not come and did not even submit a RSVP. He is the closest person to the wedding and lives just a few hours from where we will be having it. (everyone else is traveling cross country for this). Our wedding is on a holiday weekend on a Sunday and he says that he has to work all day and cannot make it. (He is in upper management at banfield and is in charge of opening up identical banfields in petsmarts across the country and can basically take time off whenever he wants). On top of that he is the only family member on FHs side I have not met in our almost 6 years of dating. FH is also the only person in his family left who could get married/have a wedding so it is literally the last wedding in the family they will have to go to.

If my friends were to say such things I would say "What the fuck is wrong with you?" *deadpan face*

I mean I just don't get it!! People act like the wedding date just popped up. As if they had no idea it was coming...ridiculous. I would go with your second response. Make em feel like idiots. Lol.

Those are some pretty funny excuses, hopefully you don't get any more weird ones.

Mine was for a couple who had RSVP'd and I had been talking to the wife off and on about wedding planning literally our entire engagement. The day of the rehearsal dinner she texts me and said " I'm so sorry we won't be able to make it to your wedding anymore, my brother just bought a boat and tomorrow is the only day we can go see it"....Umm what? There's only one day out of the whole year that you're allowed to see this boat? Must be some boat...

What @SunshineJenn said. These people aren't really your friends if those are the excuses they have for not attending your wedding. CORNHOLE? REALLY??? So yeah, be glad they're not coming to the wedding.

And I wouldn't invite other people last-minute to fill their spots. Just let it go. (Everybody sing with me now: "LET IT GO! LET IT GO! CAN'T HOLD IT BACK ANYMORE!") Every wedding has no-shows. Most no-shows don't tell you in advance they're not going to show (with really lame excuses), but still... you should always count on a few no-shows.

Oh I'm not angry, more like "wow". It's borderline comical. Honestly I'm too stunned to come up with a witty remark.

Its really last minute to invite someone ... but do you have siblings who might want to bring a friend to keep them company or have fun with? We might do this if push came to shove.

Okay, I'm not sure where your friends live and if they've been to various styles of weddings, but it sounds like from these excuses they are thinking your wedding is a much more casual affair than it really is. Like you were saying, you're paying per head -- this isn't a buffet on paper plates where a guestimate of headcount will be fine. Are these friends connected to any other people going to the wedding -- such as matriarchs or other mutual friends that could let them know how much you'd be put out by their really lame excuses? It legitimately sounds like they are pretty unintentionally ignorant about the consequences of their actions and someone should set them straight -- but it might be hard for you and your FH to do that without coming off as pushy.

With only 3 days to go, this is absolutely the perfect time for you to join our club - the IDGAF club!! :-)

Oh I'm in the club, trust me.

I'm debating on leaving the seats open and asking select coworkers to join us for the party. I don't mind eating the extra steak...

Okay, one more thought: if you are going the route @SunshineJenn suggested (which is totally your prerogative, no judgment there) -- how did you and FH handle the situation when the excuses were delivered? I personally have an issue of not being able to react right away when something like this happens -- it might take a while for the shock to wear off until I'm like, "OMG! I'm really mad about this." I might have just been like, "okay ... I guess we'll make it work ... " when I initially heard the excuses. If you're going to cut them out, maybe give them one more push to show up and do the right thing if you reacted how I might have in that situation. Otherwise, they might just think you really didn't care and be caught off guard when they realize you really don't want to be friends when they flaked out on such an important day for a lame reason.